So since when I have been divorced before there were never any children involved I am new to this.
Not sure how to sort all of this out legally and in a sane way. I know the state has spreadsheets but thats when the divorce is final right? What about during the divorce process.

My GONNA be ex says he is going to contest the divorce which is **** so I dont know how thats going to play out.

He also says he is not going to pay child support because I make more money than he does. So.. The baby will primarily reside with me and he will get to see him on his days off if he choses to do so.

Now what about when either he or I move out of the area? Does anyone know how that all works out? Fortuntely for me there was never a fight for my other kids, they were with me and that was that.

Thanks

It really depends on the state in which you live. I don't know about Hawaii (and, frankly, am too lazy to google it for you -- you should do that yourself), but in WA, divorces are no fault, and support is calculated as total supporting income from both ex's prorated based on the fraction each earns and paid to the primary custodial parent.

So, even if the CP earns more than the NCP, the NCP will pay something to the CP.

Thanks.
I just wanted to know if anyone had gone through the process of not being awarded child support yet by the court and the NCP not wanting to give any money up. At least for child care.

I also wonder how people deal with the issue of visitation when you do not live near one another. Since my other kids dads never wanted anything to do with them I have no idea what the "rules" are or how people do it. Especially with a new baby.

Hi-
I just got a child support order in place here in CA (yay). I make a lot more than my ex but my one year old spends all her time with me. Her dad sees her maybe a few hours a week, if that.
It doesn't matter who makes more money, BOTH parents are financially responsible for their child, period, end of story. Here in CA, even if a parent isn't working, they can calculate what a parent would be making on minimum wage and figure out child support that way. So it's not up to a parent whether they can pay, it's up to a judge.
My ex isn't too happy about being forced to pay child support, but let's face it, what parent would be happy to be forced to do so if they weren't already paying willingly? That's his problem now, not mine.
As for visitation, in this state, you aren't required to have a formal visitation agreement but I know parent who can't agree on visitation then go do a formal agreement.
Hope that helps-

-Teresa