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I am New to SFV |
I am new to this board and my story is a long one. I have an 11 year old son and a twelve week old son, both biracial (I am white and their father is African American). To make a long story short, we were married at 19, had our first son at 23, divorced at 30 and slept with him on and off over the years and then I became pregnant last September. I always wanted another baby and so Christopher was a blessing and a gift to me. His dad is not really around and it will be hard. But on the topic, I have had 11 years with my older son. I have never had a problem with his race. I know sometimes people wanna ask, but they never do. I always told him he was not black or white but caramel and he likes it. He knows both races and is comfortable around them both. He is a great kid and I guess we will deal with race if and when it becomes an issue. You can email me and ask me anything if you like. Just give your child alot of love, affection and have them around as many different races as you can, and they will be fine. Good luck!
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Learning to Surf The Board |
Well, my situation is a little different. See me and my daughter is mixed with Black, white and Indian. And daughter has alittle Latino in her and on Thursday while she was at school taking her nap the little boy next to her called her a "Little white girl" By being her mother I got very offended. And from my understanding she told hime she was black too. Don't get me wrong she is 25% black and I have no problem with that because Black white and Indian started with my great-great-great grandmothers family. Its just I didnt appericate her being called a racial name. My uncles baby mama is the owner of the daycare and she told me that she will speak to the boys mother and that and that something will be done. SO on friday I went in there and My UB'sM said that his mother overacted and asked what did my daughter do. And Erika(My daughter) told me that she didn't give him none of her snack that was leftover and thats why he called her that. So I when I picked her up I gave his mother a few words and she told me,"I ain't got time to be talking to a 16 year old pregnant ****" I gave her a peice of my mind and left.
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"I am New to SFV" I am New to SFV |
I am a single mother of two bi-racial boys ages 5 and 3. They havent started school yet, so I am not for sure how that is going to go. They have been in day cares and bible classes. I have yet to hear anything negative said to me or around me about my children being mixed. I have a strong personality and I portray that! My ex and I got married while I was in the military in Hawaii. We then moved to Texas! The only thing that I have encountered was a particular group of people that would give looks and make comments. (if they only knew they could have him if they wanted!!) You are always going to have the people that are going to put their two cents in, but with any subject you will find the same thing ie. weight, hair style, clothing, how u talk, how u walk, what u say, where u have lived. My question to you is does any of this stuff, these comments, do they really effect you? Teach your kids to be proud of each and every percent of their making! If your ex doesn't help instill the culture of his/her background, well here is a novel concept, YOU DO IT! I wouldn't trade my kids for the world!
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Hi there,
I have a daughter of 16 mths who is mixed race. I feel so awful for you guys who are struggling with the outsiders points of views about the mixing of the races. I personallt had a little bit of conflict at first with my parents but they soon came round within in a few days, which is nothing compared to what you're going through. All I can say is it's 2004! Is mixing races such a bad thing? Its not a new thing either! We dont choose who we fall in love with, but it goes to show that no matter what a person's situation is, we MUST not judge as we are unaware of what is around the corner. I feel blessed to have my daughter (as we all do) and I agree that mixed race kids are the most beautiful kids there are, they have something very special about them, as those lovely chunky features! wow! Curly hair, permanent tan-come on we'd all love to look like that! My daughter goes to nursery where I'd say 75% of the children are either mixed race or of a ethnic minority and my daughter does not stand out, I hope it will never be an issue an I feel sad that in this day and age it still is. However, if it was an issue in my area, I would consider moving to another part of the country. I created my daughter and couldn't bare to think of people thinking of her as different because of her race. Have you thought of moving? After all, it would be awful if she was to become aware of the problem... Hope this helps a little... Chrissa
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I am New to SFV |
Hey girls, glad u got sperm donors too! Arent men terrible? But hey, who will our kids come to when they're hurt or need someone/something.. We are the special ones and we all deserve medal because being a mother is the hardest job in the world.. Being a single mother is 100 times harder.. BIG UP ALL THE MOTHERS AND SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE! feel free to email me too!! xxx
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Oh my gosh! you poor thing, who the **** does that stupid woman think she is talking to you like that!<br /><br />As for the white/black/laatino thing, I must say that I don't think being called white should affect your child, she is mixed and will face this for years to come, perhaps fight her corner but dont make her aware of the racial thing or the fact that white is bad/offensive... She is equal to a white person, and I think by reacting like this you may be suggesting to her that is is awful being white. Another thing, try not to over-protect her, as hard as it might be. My daughter is mixed white/black and if someone was to call her white or black or asian sometimes, it doesnt offend me, just shows how different she is.. she's not standard.. be proud that she's seen in many different lights, she will always be beautiful and thats what she needs to know, not why she isnt white. Take each day as it comes, and learn that kids will be kids-which is more than often nasty!<br /><br />
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"SEEKING: 25th hour & 8th day" At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Hello everyone,
I am the mother of one beautiful daughter and the aunt of a beautiful niece that happens to both be bi-racial. They are both caucasian and African American. My sister and I both teach our children that they are special as human beings and they come from 2 different but wonderful backgrounds. They have the best of 2 cultures. I must say they inherited a wonderful mix of both genetic backgrounds as well. Our daughters are taught that everyone is equal no matter what their looks, culture, religious beliefs, ability or disability or anything else that makes a person unique. They are taught (as all children should be) that every human being is created equal and those that see differently are narrow minded. If all of us (the human race) would open our eyes and see the beauty that each of us has to offer this subject would not even exist. Unfortunately narrow mindedness is still rampant through out the world. We have to teach or children the best we can and let them know not everyone will like them because of their own problems (not our child's). Luckily I came home years ago to a place I knew my daughter would be accepted and loved by everyone that matters in her life. She is exposed, she socializes, goes to school with and is actively involved with people from all cultures and beliefs. Those people have morals and intelligence and are a welcome addition in my child's growth. Moms and dads .. if we surround our children with people like this ... they know they are loved. I do believe we have to teach them there are people in the world that will not like or love them. It is a sad but necessary lesson. Just keep loving your children ... and keep doing the best you can! I am. |
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I am New to SFV |
I finally think I have my family understanding my point of view on the whole interracial thing. here is how I broke it down to them... You go to the barn to get eggs from the chickens... are you going to pick out all the white eggs, just b/c they are white. After all the brown eggs are supposed to taste the best! ..... Say you work nights, and all the electricity goes out at the job. Are you going to take the first hand that offers to help you out, or are you going to stand there and ask every person if they are black or white, etc. .... We all bleed red. if you needed an organ transplant and the only match was a black man, are you willing to die over your ignorance? ..... last, but not least (believe me I could go on for days) When you are looking for a furry companion, do you buy only white animals? I personally have a white Schnauzer, and when he is shaved, his skin is mostly black! My mother was beaten and raped by a black man, and she has come around, If she can come around, I would like to think anyone can. But I DO have one uncle that will not budge, but the rest of my family is behind me 100%. In fact my bi-racial daughter is the Family favorite!  null |
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i think we all must agree on one thing; it was the love that we felt for each other - not the colour of someones skin that brought about these increible children.i have 4 children and a 5th on the way; all are biracial.
the youngest two - whose father is black- are the most beautiful babies i have ever seen. its not the colour of their skin that the family loves , but them. my husband and i are currently separated- im on #2 now, and i pray that his family will not speak ill of the woman( white) who gave them such precious gifts. some thing are beyond our control. that we teach our children to respect all people is within our grasp. love knows no colour.
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Lively & Zealous Parent |
For me I don't think race is really an issue with my kids-my eldest is 19 and half black, she has a 3 yr old whos father is black, 3 of my others (the youngest is 5) are half Mexican and one is half El Salvadorian. Now, a few of my kids do look mixed more than the others but like I said its not an issue, I guess cuz we are here in Tucson. I think AZ has a high population of bi-racial people, by many different races. Practically all my kids friends are mixed race too, and Im happy with things as they are because I believe sooner or later there is not going to be any one race here, it may be another 5 decades or so but it will probobly happen. Hey the KKK tried to come here once for a rally and they were ran out of town b4 they could even start! Yeaaa!!! We showed them! And I am proud of my kids and granddaughter and love to show them off.
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I am a mother of 2 bi-racial kids 2 both are white/latino. I havent had any problems with any of it(racial slurs.Maybe it could be the state that I live in too. My family never had a problem with the mixing of races.
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I am New to SFV |
hi. i am a single mother of 2 bi-racial kids, white-hispanic. i am very proud of my kids, and there isan't any where i go, that someone doesn't say, "your kids are beautiful". I have taught my kids to be proud of who they are. At first, my parents had alot of problems with this, but now, they wouldn't take anything for my kids. All they want is for me and my kids to be happy in our lives. Color is only skin deep, right? When i look at all the people in this world, i don't see color, but that is only my thoughts. God bless all of you, be strong, and teach your kids to be proud, of who they are, not what color they are!!!
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I don't see what is wrong of being proud of your color. I am proud to be white. If I were born black, I'd be proud to be Black. I'm not offended by others who love their color. I would hope they are truly as comfortable in their skin as I am mine. My kids are Mexican/White too. It depends on my mood to which one I claim. My dad readily accepted my news (many moons ago) but I can remember thinking he wouldn't because being white and southern I had been exposed to that mentality year after year...about white daddy's killing (supposedly) or disowning their daughters with mixed kids. But when it happened, he proved he was nobody's carbon copy. My baby ended up getting his first and last name and born 3 days before dad's birthday, I arrived home on dad's birthday with my baby and said "Happy Birthday." Actually, dad drove me to the hospital and then after we got home he got up with my baby every morning while I slept. Racism is one of the most ridiculous forms of hate because it is nonsensical...the shade of skin that covers our meat, bones and holds our organs in...strange huh? I just love people, but racists are people, in my experience, who are weak and ignorant and need someone to put "down" so they can elevate themselves in their own mind's eyes. To downgrade someone means you have self-esteem issues totally.
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