I HAVE A QUESTION FOR SOME MEN, I AM 26 YR OLD FEMALE WITH A 2 YR OLD AND 10 WEEKS PREGNANT. I HAVE LATELY BEEN STRUGGLING WITH THE THOUGHT OF FINDING LOVE AGAIN. DO YOU THINK A GIRL WHO ALREADY WILL HAVE TWO CHILDREN HAS TOO MUCH BAGGAGE IN A NEW RLATIONSHIP? PLEASE BE HONEST.
THANKS KRISTELL

well, i'm not a man answering your question. I also, 26, 2 sons...not looking for love right now. I think somebody will be out there for you. I've settled myself to the content idea, however, that i'm meant to be alone for the rest of my life! Sorry, in a humorous manner, i try to expect the worst and then never be disappointed. I ready your other post, and you are in my prayers, dear. I hope things work out for you, and I hope your family comes to their senses.

Hi Ladies, and welcome to both of you to the forum.
I wouldn't worry so much. A couple of kids does not make you "damaged". There will be some guys who do not want a relationship with kids already part of the package, and there will be some guys who are fine with it. Take it from a 43 yr old, you both a quite young still and lots of time ahead of you still. Don't rush into any relationship either just because a guy may say he's fine with the kids, he won't be the only one. Be choosey.

Oh, and it's better etiquette to turn off your caps lock when posting on forums. All caps are harder to read and indicate yelling.

You need patience. There are great guys out there so what do you have to offer them? Be the best person you can be and the best mom you can be and there will be a guy out there who will find that very attractive. And you both (Pamella too) have lots of time.

Hey girls I know I am not a man but have been asked out from time to time in the past year. So if they can ask me out knowing how many kids I have and the truck loads of extra baggage I carry You will too. Like the men said give it time. Find your own contentment first.
There are good men out there.

Hey girly,
Dont get affended but I think the least of your worries right now should be in a relationship. Of course we all want to know if we are still desirable and our family will be welcom in to another man/womans heart in the future but right now you should just concentrate on your and your soon to be 2 children. If you turn to a man now it will most likely lead not to good things. I may be way out of line and if I am I apologize. But to directly awnser your question, men think 1 kid is enough baggage but what I believe is that that man is obvioulsy not enough for my son or me..but I do have hope that one day a man will want my son as much as me, and I am sure one day a man will want your children as much as they want you.

thanks to all that have replied. your replies have surely settled me. i am not at all looking for a man, just a question to poll men on their opinions. i do not take any offense to anyone opinions. everyone needs constructive criticism. lately i have had so many questions running in my head, but i have figured out that my children are #1 always and one day at a time will heal all. one day when i am least expecting it my puzzle pieces will fall together. again thank you to all.

well kristell

my answer to that would be no; her kids would not be too much baggage. i would have an very open mind about that considering i have a child my self. but i do agree that alot of guys might look twice at that. but i do share your fears, i worry about dating some one and how they would feel about my child.

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Originally posted by lonegirl26:
[qb] I HAVE A QUESTION FOR SOME MEN, I AM 26 YR OLD FEMALE WITH A 2 YR OLD AND 10 WEEKS PREGNANT. I HAVE LATELY BEEN STRUGGLING WITH THE THOUGHT OF FINDING LOVE AGAIN. DO YOU THINK A GIRL WHO ALREADY WILL HAVE TWO CHILDREN HAS TOO MUCH BAGGAGE IN A NEW RLATIONSHIP? PLEASE BE HONEST.
THANKS KRISTELL [/qb]

Hi Kristell, I truly believe that no one has too much baggage! If you are a kind and loving person, you will find the right man for you. My mothers situation was very much the same as yours, she had three and did find a man who loved us all 'til this day ! wow!

My mom was a single mom of 4 daughters. She was in 2 long term relationships, one of which she ended up marrying. He has 2 children of his own who were a bit older then us. It worked for them, it will work for you, eventually.

There's someone for everyone out there.

My brother has two kids and married a woman with two kids, so I don't think having kids will interfere with finding someone, I just think you have to look in different places.

I think when people get to a certain age you expect people to have kids, so it's not a big shock to most people. With two kids myself, I expect I'll eventually date a single mom or two.

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Originally posted by Armyone71:
[qb] ....With two kids myself, I expect I'll eventually date a single mom or two. [/qb]

or two ?