Hello all.

My name is Michael, I am 22 years old, from Ontario Canada.

On January 11, 2002 My Wife and were Married, and the 6 weeks later we found out she was Preggy. We where both excited and hoping to have a healthy child. 9 Months Later she (Angel) was born. My Wife was also taking over in everything I tried to do with my little girl, She never let me take her to the park, Doctors, no where.

Also 3 Months after we were married she started cheating on me with man from the internet. I forgave her, and told her the next time she did it that was the end. In the Start of December i found out she was cheating on me again, and also found out that it was not the second time, that it was more then twice, this made me so so so mad that I told her I wanted a divorce. I feel like I have wasted 3 years of my life.

Now that her and I are no longer together she has my little girl, and We had agreed that i would have her ever second weekend, and once or twice during the week.

That was in the start, now today January 9, 2005 I called her I found out my little girl is sick, plus I am not allowed to have her this weekend, because the Ex Wife has plans, When she knew full well that this weekend coming I was suppose to have Angel then. The She starts up with, I have no say when and When I can not see my little girl because I am not paying Child Support, She Says its the Law, and we have not even gone to Court yet.

What Do I Do, I love my little girl so much and I do not want to lsoe her, She is everything to me. I can not work right now because I am kind of Disabled.

I have no clue on what to do, I really need help...!!!!

I hope to hear from you all soon.
Thankx Again Michael C.

Are you divorced?

No not yet I have to wait one year in order to get a divorce..

I would suggest starting some court proceedings.
Get visitation, support court ordered.

Some things can be a little different for Canada so perhaps check out the Canada forum we have on here. Look up member jaydsdad, he has spent some time already dealing with the Canadian family law system. He may have some good pointers for you to follow.

Generally support and visitation are two different issues. Meaning in theory that you should be entitled to visitation period, though hopefully you'll be able to find some work to be able to provide some support for your daughter.

Where is the canadian forums for this place

About the Divorce thing, My Ex-Wife and I are no longer together, and thats better for me.

I would like to find someone new in my life, to be friends with for now, more of a female friend not to have Relations with her, more someone that I can talk to and know that I can trust her.

I have gotten over my ex-wife, as I feel that I should not hold on to it, I dealt with this hurt the first two weeks, and some of my other friends have really help me, Most of them being Females.

I find a females know whats its like to be hurt more then Man, and Guys don't get me wrong, but its the way I feel.

Sorry if this sounds bad or werid or that I am trying to find Love, This is not what I am looking for. I have No room in my life for a New Love Relationship, Just a really good Friendship....


Thankx Michael C.

http://singleparentsnetwork.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?/forum/89.html Canada forum.
Can also be found from the main forum page under states and locales.

Also forgot to mention, we usually try to discourage members from posting their personal contact info/email addresses in open forum. We have a private message function that members can use without having to open up thier personal info to just anyone that may happen to be browsing the forum. You could always edit that out of your post above.

Don's right, you should talk to Jaydsdad. He's super and really nice.

Go to the forum home page, then scroll down to states and locals.

Ok E-mail is Taken off, sorry about that I am new here. LOL

It will not happen again.

Hi Michael C.,

Welcome to SFV. You have already solved one problem just by registering. The ladies on this site are wonderful and I have nothing but respect for all of them. Feel free to pick any of their brains for insight and support. I do often. They allow me to see the other side of the fence often.

Well about family law in Ontario. There are a few posts in the Canada room that you will find useful. You must start proceedings soon. As soon as you file and appear for your first court hearing, a "interim order" may be issued to ensure your visitation. At the same time, you will be assessed child support (again interim) based on your income and the federal guidelines.

In Ontario, there is the FLIC office(see Canada room under "info"). You can get free consultation there. A lawyer will help you with questions. Start there.

In the meantime, keep up your efforts to see your child but be polite and document everything. The mother doesn't know the law and she can't deny you access without just cause. A serious illness may be deemed just cause if you don't have the resources to care for the child but if you can care foor the child then that's not good enough for denial.

One more bit of advice. DO NOT react to her intimidations. This will only stress you and look bad on you in court. When you feel the angst rising, walk away and seek advice.

I'll be watching for you around the site. Please check in with us in the Canadian room and please lie if you're a Leafs fan.

Hey JD, do you think the courts will look the mom's lifestyle if Michael goes for custody, being how she is still married to Michael and pregnant by somebody else?

Unfortunately, the mother's lifestyle is irrelevent unless it endangers the child's life or health. Michael's case will be dealt with in just the terms of HIS child only. She could have 12 other kids but only one pertains to Michael.

The issue you raise will probably only apply to alimony but child support and access are separate. It is a good question and Michael, if you can, when you learn more maybe you can help us here with this one.

Will her lifestyle and history play a part in access and support or alimony? Since alimony wasn't an issue for me, I'd like to know too.

Hey i never Said my ex wife was pregnant. LOL if she was I would have been even more mad at her then I was.

Jaydsdad,
Thank you for you help I went to legal Aid today and was to go to flic, I will be doing that tomorrow morning. I am a Leafs Fan but they *** me off. I Love My Little girl so very much and I would do anything for her. She is my life, and I will fight what ever I need to Fight.

Love and Peace to you all,
Michael C.

Why is it soo many people always thing support and visitation go together? My sons dad thought if he staied away he wouldn't have to pay. Anyway the best advise that I can give to anyone living anywhere is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. I mean it, all phone calls, all contact, if you give her any money, make sure its a check so you have proof. Also my sons father who now owes alot of money (like enough for a new SUV) was unable to work for awhile due to a motorcycle accident, but he still saw the little guy everyother weekend, his mom just had to help him with the kid. Good Luck and try to remain calm!