I have been looking for someone nice to settle down with for a while now. I dont play games or lie and i am a nice guy. I just dont get why it is so gard to find a decent woman. there is way too much drama in the world. I have to think about my two kids first, but I still want to have someone to hold.

It's because you're looking. Every person that I have know that has found their special someone found them when they weren't looking for them Just foucus on yourself and your children and when and if it's time they will come along.

i am having the same problem as Sojouner1983 and have heard jenn25chizzy's response over and over. Your response is not wrong, Jenn, it is just that it is very difficult to let the thought go. I have been following your advice for 10 years and still nothing. I am hoping that my recent move from TN to GA will do the trick. I just keep praying, and I try not to obsess, but it is HARD!!! LOL!

I know what you mean lol

heh know exactly how you feel. I am told my little girl is a chick magnet. ITS NOT WORKING.
my problem has been the places I go i feel uncomfortable asking someone out. my time to actually go out is seriously limited. and over all I don't get out much.

Yeah I have to agree that the old saying it will just happen never happens, after the divorce I actually didn't want to deal with woman at the moment so I just enjoyed life with the kids, I wouldn't have minded if I did go out but no one came after after a few years I started to realize that kids attention wasn't enough I missed having a woman, having that connection. Then I am now in the situation everyone is talking about which is not finding anyone or even knowing how to find someone. I didn't find anyone when I wasn't looking and can't find anyone now lol!! oh and dunn it isn't a your daughter that is a chick magnet it is suppose to be a puppy. Kids often scare people unless they think you are an uncle then its cool for some reason?

For a few years I too wondered if and when I would meet someone significant in my life.

I spent time focussing on my son and family values and my son had a hard time for a little while and there simply wasn't room to allow a man in my life at that moment.

Once I started focusing on the immediate issues that were important to me, I started to make more friends. OUt of that I did find a potential mate and partner.


While I didn't see it unfortunately till I became ill, I realized only then during my rehabilitation, that this friend really truly cared for me by the way he spent his time wiht me helping me heal. From doing basic things such as walking, and doing things around the house, only then did I raelize what he was made of.


While i had this friend before....I was too busy in my mind to "see" the stuff he was made of that would perhaps one day open the doors to a great friendship and romance.

Single parenting is no easy task. SOmetimes we get too consumed in every day life we simply just don't take the time to really see what is around us. That is the way it was with me anyway.

M