Well, I have two phrases that bring me comfort when I am broke and everything is going wrong.
My ex-husband used to say "all situations are temporary." Funny to think of that now. I dont think he knew that he was talking about our marriage. But he was right. Over time and with small steps, any situation can be overcome and does usually work itself out.
My mother always says that "God will provide you with anything you need." "He probably wont make you win the lottery, but if you need a place to call home and food on the table, with god's help you will find it." I'm not a particularly religious person, but it's funny how you find soem religion when things get really bad. Hang in there, honey. Things can only get better

during the very beginning of my divorce i remember having nothing except what i had on, not even a place to sleep - it is a long story.

i even had to give my son to my ex's mom for a while to get on my feet. religion found me, i did not find it. it is amazing what faith can do.

some people may think that it was luck and hard work that saved my son and i, but i cannot take credit. if it was not for my faith i would have never crawled out of the muck i was in.

i forget or do not realize the complete situation until someone asks me to tell the story - and i always end up praying thanks to GOD for hanging in there with me.

over the past few years i have come to the believe that we are put into situation that test us - maybe so we can be thankful for what we have later - my heart goes out to folks that are in trouble, because it sure doesnt seem fair when you are in the middle of mess and you are just trying to be a good parent and do the right things in your life.

=) back in those dark times, i tried my best to look at the good things in our lives (sometimes that was like pouring bactine on a broken leg LOL) but it helped a lot

Amen, honey.

Just remember...God will NEVER give us more than what we can handle. Tin, I believe ppl are put into situations that will test our strength and Faith.

Hi, everyone, I am new here. I was really moved by alot of thing sposted here. I can relate wholeheartedly. My situation is a little different. I just divorced me 3rd husband in may of this year. He has custody of my daughter who is 3 and I was supporting my two kids I have with me solely on the little amount of money he gives me per month to pay off what he took from my daughter's survivor benefits and of course her survivor benefits paid monthly. Then this year, I got the courage up and decided to go to school using my GI bill. I thought it was a good decision. Here getting assistance with daycare takes up to two years, So I haven't really been able to work. Luckily my 5 yr old started school this year so I go to school now while my two girls are in school. Then , last week I get a notice stating I have to pick up some papers from the sherrif's office. He is taking me to court for child support. I have no problems paying child support. I just find the situation strange because I have another child that I have to pay child support for, I have actually fallen into arrears because my situation was so bad and his father wouldn't work with me at all. So, now that I can finally buy food without getting a payday loan, husband number 3 wants to get something out of me. It is only a problem to me because he makes alot of money, He goes to Red Lobster weeklly, he is remarried now and has a joint income, I have my measley gi bill and and my daughter's survivor benefits that I wish I could put away for her but can't because we need to live. I am also 6 months pregnant, the baby's father left me early in my pregnancy, we are trying to work things out but he doesn't want to get back together. When I agreed to give my 3rd husband custody of my daughter, it was because he promised he wouldn't do this to me before I was ready and because I wanted to go back to school and couldn't afford daycare. When Summer rolls around and I have to take a break from school to be home with the kids, I will be back to living on his spousal support (repayment for $20,000 he took of my daughter's survivor benefits from the VA and social security, after we found out he was murdered
after 4 yrs of being missing)Also , my second husband may pay me $29 if I am lucky now and then for my 8 yr old...I get really upset sometimes because the men I was married to are remarried and living comfortably. My 1 st husband makes almost $100k a yr and my 3rd makes $85k a yr , we live in the south too, his reasons are because he claims my circumstances have changed, yeah, I can actually buy food now and buy my 8 yr old pants that don't come up to her calves for a change. My income isn't even a steady one. To get daycare assistance I have to wait for 2 yrs to even get it. I hav eno family where I live and my only friend is my baby's father. No baby sitter , nothing. When I had summer visitation this yr I had to get on food stamps for the time she was here because I mad $15 too much per month. This really sucks. Then my ex thought it was funny instead of paying the full amount on the first of the month, to break up the payments in half so I had to struggle to pay my rent. This was his way of retaliating because he pushed me aside and forced his way into my home after being asked to leave repeatedly, I had him arrested for that. So ever since he has been doing things to get back at me. He is partly responsible for my break up with my baby's father as well. He posed as a woman and spoke to my boyfriend online and from what I can tell, now that I know more about what happened, my boyfriend really did know it was my ex husband the whole time. I didn't know this when it took place, I had just found out I was pregnant and Got hit with that. It was hard to trust my baby's father, now I see that I was mistaken about him and it is hard to win him back. A lot of damage has been done because of what my ex husband did. He even emailed my paralegal instructor impersonating some one else, stating that I claimed she was going to represent me against him for free when I did not say that at all. I had an attorney and had to make sure she knew that he did know this as well and was just being an ass. I am sorry, IT LOOKS LIKE i AM WRITING A BOOK. I HAVE A LOT OF PENT UP FRUSTRATION THOUGH AND I NEEDED TO LET IT GO. Sorry about that. Well thanks for reading my story.

Welcome to the forum. Man what a mess, I hope it gets better for you girl.

No doubt about that! Thanks!

I am so glad there are people here to talk to and read what they're going through too and know i'm not the only one.

I'm used to my ex's six figures. He told me I'd live on mac and cheese and in a mobile home for the rest of my life if I divorced him. So far I'm still at my parents haven't even made it to the mobile home or mac and cheese part yet. I'm on WIC and foodstamps gives me $2.50 a week since I make so much money from child support which was lowered too because my ex refused to work this entire last year because he doesn't want to give me any money for child support.

This is quite a different life and I just sit here and cry sometimes hoping I didn't ruin my Son's possibilities of having a wonderful life. I just thought it would be better to not have him see alcohol all the time and see his Mommy hurt every day. I know I wouldn't have been able to stand seeing my Mom like that. I am just ready to face it that he's going to make sure I'm broke and miserable the rest of my life. He's made that very clear.

Countless times I sat down thinking about that I should have done this or that with my daughter or felt bad because I cut her off when my mind was wondering somewhere else, I always strive to be perfect therefore I'll always feel I need to improve something but you know what? I'm having the time of my life, so what if the judge doesn't take under consideration that I'm doing everything by my self without any help, I'll manage, and that'll give me the opportunity to tell everybody go #@$%@ your self.
hehe j/k nobody would be here if we weren't interested in doing it better for the ones that truly matter, I think it's ok to feel bad, it gives us the strength to keep on going.
good luck everybody

I know it is hard...very hard in fact. We are all here for you though.

like others i know how you feel. after 2 years of stuggling i gave in and moved back in with my parents. sometimes we have to bite the bullet and ask for help. i let it get so bad my kids lived with my parents 200mi away while i tried to camp out and get it all staight. i got it right and moved in with my parents. it was the best choice i could have made. find your support and take a deep breath, you will make it we are all here to support you.