"Board Blazen Parent"
At A loss for Words - NOT!
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Hi Ayla and welcome. There are days when we all wonder. And those like me who wonder every day.  I do understand where you are coming from and it can be tough. If you honestly feel it is time to get out you can do it. Seeing children getting hurt is an excellent motivator. Keep you chin up and your witts about you and you will be fine. God bless and good luck. |
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| Posts: 1779 | Location: Mayberry, In. | Registered: 16 November 2004 |  |
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"Board Beacon Parent"
Setting New Standards
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quote: Originally posted by Ayla: I do not believe we are a good match and our values have never been the same as far as how to raise kids.
Then it is time to move on and look forward. quote: I think that if I continue to allow the lifestyle, well then I am just as guilty.
I always liked the saying "When someone wrongs you once "Shame on them" wrongs you twice...."Shame on you". quote: He has been verbally and physically abusive to them and I have stuck up for them to him, but I don't think they should have to see that. I think that I fear being alone and fear that I can do it.
If you stay in a relationship that brings you AND your kids down, than I would have to say that in the long run it ends up being your fault. Everyone has the opportunity to leave, no one owns you. Your own fear is what is keeping you there and you are in charge of that too. I would much rather fail at trying to make things better....than fail at not trying at all. |
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| Posts: 1102 | Location: MICHIGAN | Registered: 03 June 2004 | |
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I am New to SFV
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quote: Originally posted by Londonnicole:
[qb] I have a question for you...I have a 7 month old and I just found out that I am pregnant again. The father is not supportive and he is "always going to get a job and help me" but so far he hasn't. We are not together and I pretty much hate him....anyway...I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can afford two kids. I am a fulltime student, 1 1/2 yrs. away from a B.A. in Business and right now I work part time at my daughter's daycare so I can get a discount rate. I cannot even begin to imagine how poor I am going to be. I keep thinking about abortion, but I don't think that I can do that, I have done it once before. Do you have any words of wisdom, being a single father of two...how have you coped?
Thanks,
Maria [/qb]
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| Posts: 7 | Location: Sarasota, FL | Registered: 23 May 2005 | |
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I am New to SFV
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quote: Originally posted by Londonnicole:
[qb] I have a question for you...I have a 7 month old and I just found out that I am pregnant again. The father is not supportive and he is "always going to get a job and help me" but so far he hasn't. We are not together and I pretty much hate him....anyway...I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can afford two kids. I am a fulltime student, 1 1/2 yrs. away from a B.A. in Business and right now I work part time at my daughter's daycare so I can get a discount rate. I cannot even begin to imagine how poor I am going to be. I keep thinking about abortion, but I don't think that I can do that, I have done it once before. Do you have any words of wisdom, being a single father of two...how have you coped?
Thanks,
Maria [/qb]
I have had my two sons for almost two years now and to be honest I do not think that I have coped with the situation yet. I have not had the time. Although whenever I do start to feel sorry for myself or frustrated I try to think how hard it is for my boys. I try to be a good dad and mom but lets face facts dad can never be mom. I have found out through the years that some of the things that I thought where going to be devistating in my life actualy turned out to be the best. I am not a religous person but there is an old saying that I believe is true. God never gives you more than you can handle. I don't know if any of my ramblings help feel free to write me if you want to talk some more. |
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| Posts: 7 | Location: Sarasota, FL | Registered: 23 May 2005 | |
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