i think my ex is so busy flaunting his two girl interests in my face, that he has forgotten to concider his children.
when i first found out that he was dating with our kids in tow, i let him know how wrong i knew that to be.
after all, it has only been a month and a half since we split up, and he has a long way to go to find out if these are anything but rebound or casual relationships.
but now, after repeatedly asking him to stop involving us in his personal life, i am begining to feel it is meant to hurt.
i have asked him to do some research, and have
tried every way i can think of to phrase and rephrase my request but worry i am not getting through.
the last time we talked i hung up on him (i dont really do that sort of thing usually) because he was yelling. i had called him to let him know that the toy my daughter came home with, which she told me was from his v. young g.f. and that "its because she loves me" was exactly the sort of thing i was telling him was not okay.
for one, my daughter beleives this girl loves her now, when she shouldnt even know about her, and two, this is the second gift he has sent her home with, the first from another woman.

need to breathe.
am so frustrated.

Well he sounds imature to say the least he also seems clueless to how others feel its all abaut him.

So sorry kfox...what a huge burden to have to carry! You have every right to be frustrated and I wish I knew what to tell ya! You've probably already told him that it's important for him to avoid a situation where your kids have to adjust to several long-term (or short-term) partners. When children really care about people who end up leaving them, it becomes harder for them to let other people matter to them, for fear of another loss. I wish he realized that he needs time to grieve for the death of the marriage and once he's begun to heal and feel better, only then should he think about dating someone. It takes time, as you're probably well aware of. If you've told him all of this and he's still doing this to your kids...gosh...I have no ideas on what to do. I've not been down that road yet. I sure hope you find helpful answers here! I, myself, am curious to see what others say so I'm prepared for it when my ex starts dating. All I can say for now is best wishes and hang in there! You've got friends here!
--Amy