Hello everyone, I just wanted to say Hi and introduce myself to you all. I am a single mom of a wonderful little boy Josh who will be turning 1 year a week from Sunday. (Which is about the hardest thing i'm going through at the moment, my baby is growing up) I am a single mom by choice. I have a medical condition that would have made it really hard to have a baby if I had waiting any longer. I had been in a relationship for 5 years prior to my son but he did not want kids and I didn't really want them with him either so I chose to go through a donor since I didn't have time to meet someone, fall in love and get married. (even though I do want to meet someone fall in love, get married and find a good father for my son) I have no regrets and I love my son with all my heart. I just don't have many single parent friends so I find it hard to talk to people about "life". Well thats my story and i'm happy to have found a site to talk to other single parents.

well, Shannan, you have certainly brought some diversity to the group and we are gald that you have. I am sure you will have some interesting insight into things and I am eager to hear it.

Welcome.

Welcome Shannan,
true, my experience is that in everyday life and today's society there is no real place for me as a single Mom either. Except here on the site.
I am glad you found SFV, and I am sure you'll find people to talk to.
I am also a single Mom by choice, but it's a fact that I never thought it would be so hard, psychologically, physically, financially, logistically...but I knew it would be beautiful and I was right in that. And the rewards are worth it. And then there are the dreams...

What I find the hardest is finding time with him. I work full time and when I get home i'm so tired but I see that little face smiling up at me when I walk in the door and that is the best feeling in the world! It makes all the worries of his future, my future just melt away!

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[qb] Welcome Shannan,
true, my experience is that in everyday life and today's society there is no real place for me as a single Mom either. Except here on the site.
I am glad you found SFV, and I am sure you'll find people to talk to.
I am also a single Mom by choice, but it's a fact that I never thought it would be so hard, psychologically, physically, financially, logistically...but I knew it would be beautiful and I was right in that. And the rewards are worth it. And then there are the dreams... [/qb]

We don't do much during the week either, together. It's just getting him up in the morning...and then putting him to bed at night. We manage to get in one game or one book, but no more...
But during the weekends it's different.
But Ian is older, 2.5.

Hi Shannon. Well, I am a single mother of a 9 month old little girl, Kathryn, and she is my whole heart and soul. My daughter's father played games with my head while I was pregnant and finally he told me he wanted nothing to do with her the day after she was born (and on the phone no less). HE never saw her. I decided not to pursue him for child support because he is an unstable man and my daughter and I are better off without him. But after all that, I would do it again to have my baby girl. She is wonderful.

But I too, like you, want to fall in love, get married so Kathryn could have a father.

Welcome to the new members!
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I read your post and thought how similar my view points were when my daughter was so little. Something to think about: You should want to get married for yourself, not so that Kathryn can have a Dad. It may not even be how you meant that statement, but I see so many women looking for Dad's for their children instead of a life-long partner for themselves. Once you find somebody that is worthy of you, they'll automatically fit the bill for being there for your daughter. Just make sure that they fit the whole mold.

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[qb] Hi Shannon. Well, I am a single mother of a 9 month old little girl, Kathryn, and she is my whole heart and soul. My daughter's father played games with my head while I was pregnant and finally he told me he wanted nothing to do with her the day after she was born (and on the phone no less). HE never saw her. I decided not to pursue him for child support because he is an unstable man and my daughter and I are better off without him. But after all that, I would do it again to have my baby girl. She is wonderful.

But I too, like you, want to fall in love, get married so Kathryn could have a father. [/qb]

Hi everone,
This is my first time hear so I thought I would share my story right off the bat. I was married for 6 years, that ended in 98 and gave me 2 beautiful children a boy and a girl. Me ex and I don't have too many issues and he has since remarried. I was then in a four year relationship that went completely haywire after I became pregnant with my now 2 1/2 year old daughter. Hence there are 8 years between my middle daughter and my youngest. My 2 1/2 year old's father let me find out through the grape vine when I was 5 months pregnant that an old flame of his was 3 months along with what was believed to be his child. He was lead to the curb and has not been seen or heard from since last spring. Doesn't bother me a bit although she has started to figure out the daddy concept and isn't quite sure where hers is and I'm not real sure of exactly what too tell considering he lives here in town. So that's my story in a nutshell. I hope to get and even give advice from many of you and a few good laughs along the way.

All single parents are going to face the question of why isn't "mommy" or "daddy" around, but what I have coming up (atleast he is only 1 so it will be a few years) is why don't I have a daddy! If anyone has any advise on explaining to your son how you conceived him via donor and so there is no daddy at all I would love to hear it. I am hoping that all the love that I give him and being the best mom (and dad) I can will help when the time comes and that he wont feel like he is missing out. I am open to all advise!
Can I also say just cuz it is bubbling inside me right now, how much I love being a mom!!!!! I love my son with every fiber of my body. Josh will be 1 on the 13th and he is now walking 90% of the time and I just sit and stare at him and how much he has grown in the last year and how much I have grown in the last year. I went from bad relationship to bad relationship in the past and I never thought it was possible to feel this good about life. I have never loved so much, been so scared, so intriged, so humbled, so amazed and so loved back, it is great!
Thanks for letting me ramble on.....I just needed to get that out.