Hello.

I'm 36 and a single mother to 2 kids. I'm about half loony b/c of it too. How can I do it? How can I go on? Why does the father get to go and live on like nothing happened while I'm stuck dealing with kids and paying for everything??? Where's the justice? Where's the chivalry??? I'm so sick of it!
I don't understand it but reading the posts here I realize I'm not alone. I wish it were different! Why couldn't one relationship work out? Why couldn't a man love me and want to stay with me and me alone? I'm so tired of trying. I'm so sick of the should's and have to's, I just want someone to help.
How do you get through it? When you're at the end of your rope, how do you tie a knot and hang on? I'm in need of great answers from others like me, single mother, job in question, bills piled sky high, no child support...what do I do???

Not sure what to tell you other then I have been there.

I'm new here, too. I just had to reply. I have four kids, and I know how it feels to be at the end of your rope! It's like you have to do everything and be everything, giving everything and having nothing to nourish you. I have struggled with all of this, though I have it easier than you do- first, I left my husband, and second, he pays child support.

Lately I have decided to view this time in my life as a spiritual school of hard knocks. What else can you do? When life is so hard, the only thing it can really give you is fanastic character building. I also decided that the human race would not have survived for this long if we were meant to raise our kids alone. And I don't mean dads, because look at history- haven't dads been absent more than involved? I mean other women, our moms and sisters and aunts, and those who have come before us. This might sound crazy, but I started doing a visualization when I was pregnant with my fourth baby and my husband was off doing his own thing. I had no friends, and I decided to try this: I imagined all the women who have been where I am, in the room and surrounding me. All those women who raised kids on their own, who had no-one to help them. I imagined them watching me and giving me the love and support I needed. I tried to see their faces in my mind, to make them real. It worked for me. Now when I have no idea what to do with my kids, I concentrate on my breath going in and out and at the same time I think my question in my mind, saying, "What should I do about this right now, wise women?". Usually something occurs to me. Really! Not like an earth shattering solution to everything, but you know how sometimes everything goes crazy at once and you just want to scream? Well, something will come to me that works to settle everyone down and that crisis will pass without me having said something I regret.
Good luck to you

excuse me!!! I love it when a single mom gets on here and bashes fathers, look around girl, we are here also, I have raised my girls a long time with out their mother being here, and yes she is alive. This is a single parent board, not a single mother forum. Now I have to stop because frankly I am trembling right now because I am simply furyous.

Hi Rachel 43055 I don't know where to start . I agree 100% with you. I feel the same way I have four children by the same man but he has eight . He doesn't call , come pass or anything . No financial help. He gets off scott free while I pay for EVERYTHING. I've tried getting child support that didn't work not only was he supposed to pay 20 dollars a month for four children but he doesnt even do it. He is in the rears 21,000 dollars. He is not working but he has 4 cars with tv's in them , and just bought a house. I guess he thinks that their ok like food and clothes just comes to us. I don't know what to do but if you find out be4me let me know.

i too know what you are going through, i am kind of in the same boat (every situation is different) BUt just remember that no matter how bad you have it, someone does have it worse...it might be hard now but eventually things will work out and be how they are supposed to be...oh and my favorite, what goes around comes around...

Welcome. I think all single parents struggle with some of these things at some point in their life as a single parent it does not matter if they are a single mother or a single father. We all deal with this emotions and feelings at some point.