Hi all, I am new here. I have been divorced since May, have 3 kids and thought I was doing well, until I realized that today would have been our 9th anniversary. I don't know why I am having such a hard time with this. He remarried the woman he was seeing while we were still married in August. So, it's not that I want him back, I guess I just feel I wasted the last nine years o fmy life. I don't know. I go in for surgery on the 9th of Feb for a complete thyroidectomy. I had cancer there 2 years ago and it has returned so they are removing the thyroid this time. I guess I just needed to get some things off my chest... thanks

Hi Cherie

Welcome to the site and you've come to the right place to get things off your chest.

Its totally acceptable to have a bad day just because you don't want him back doesn't mean you don't miss some things about him and you are bound to feel like this if it's your first anniversary without him.

I'm so sorry to hear about the cancer and I really don't know what to say but that I hope everything goes well and my prayers are with you.

Welcome Cherie,
Hope all goes well with your surgery.
You have found a great group of people here with lots of support. Enjoy the site.