any happy single moms in new jersey with toddler
I would love to connect with HAPPY single moms
It is the best!
I love being an single mom.


http://www.cafemom.com/group/momsofunionrs
Union county

I'm not a single mom from NJ and I'm not looking to connect but I tell you I really enjoy been a single father, I guess its nicer to find single parents in the area, the school where my daughter attends is full of couples and I haven't noticed single parents, which its great for the kinds but at every birthday or party I feel like a third wheel in between everybody, no big deal any ways.

Adrian

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Originally posted by lisankay:
any happy single moms in new jersey with toddler
I would love to connect with HAPPY single moms
It is the best!
I love being an single mom.


http://www.cafemom.com/group/momsofunionrs
Union county

what is it that you love about it? I mean I love my duaghters but what about the single part do you like?

I don't know about Lisa but I love the fact that I get to enjoy all the wonderful things about parenthood without the hassle of putting out with a wife.

Adrian

I am a happy single father from Delaware. Please say that living in New Jersey you are an Eagles fan (No Giants or Cowgirls I hope).

Where are you from, Northern or Southern New Jersey? Beaches in the North are nicer, beaches in the south have way more people.

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Originally posted by spindizzy:

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Originally posted by lisankay:
any happy single moms in new jersey with toddler
I would love to connect with HAPPY single moms
It is the best!
I love being an single mom.


http://www.cafemom.com/group/momsofunionrs
Union county

what is it that you love about it? I mean I love my duaghters but what about the single part do you like?

Well most times I do not view myself as a "single" parent even though I am..probably because I don't see it necessarily as a negative....except on certain days, if I am fighting with something that is heavy...LOL

On occasion I miss having someone around to do things with, but so far replaced most of that time with good friends, working out, and volunteering..i keep myself pretty busy, most times . Perhaps I see it differently cause I was raised by a single parent...??? maybe..who knows.

Life is what you make of it right? If you are a happy person in general you will be happy when life changes your situation. I didn't expect to be single at this point in my life but I'm happy! Remember being single is far from being alone!

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Originally posted by Lynnmarie:
Life is what you make of it right? If you are a happy person in general you will be happy when life changes your situation. I didn't expect to be single at this point in my life but I'm happy! Remember being single is far from being alone!

AMEN!

When were we EVER alone, we all have our children!

I dont think any of us ask to be single moms but you know what its not as bad as you think. No one made us have children its a decision we made and now we are obligated to those children until they are adults. Life is never easy just take it one day at a time, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. You'd be surprised how well you can do alone. Head Up!

I hate being a single mom. Maybe because it is still so new to me, about a year. Maybe because I am surrounded by happy couples--I love my church and the friends I have there, they have given me incredible support, but it is tough that I have no close friends who are single moms. Maybe because my ex-husband was my very first kiss (I was 25 when we married, not some kid just out of high school) and I was so certain that there was just one man for me and now he is gone. Maybe because I feel so much pressure to do it all for my kids--because their dad is not here to do it for them and because I am so scared that they will want to leave me and stay with their dad instead.

But, I am having kind of a bad day.... There is good stuff about being a single mom. I can do goofy, fun, kid stuff (like making green pasta and green alfredo sauce for St. Patrick's Day) and no husband to complain about it or roll his eyes or refuse to participate. And now that I am a working, single mom, I am way more careful about *how* I spend time with my kids.

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Originally posted by andrik777:
I dont think any of us ask to be single moms but you know what its not as bad as you think. No one made us have children its a decision we made and now we are obligated to those children until they are adults. Life is never easy just take it one day at a time, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. You'd be surprised how well you can do alone. Head Up!

Actually, I did ask to be a single mom. Despite what I saw as Herculean efforts, the whole Prince Charming thing never really worked for me. I was in the midst of a divorce that was taking almost 3 years to finalize and I realized I could be bitter and angry and cry in front of children for the rest of my life or I could shut up and change my life. Due to the divorce thing I could not adopt - which frankly I would have preferred since I am adopted and I am a birthmother, but that's a whole different thread.

I love love love being a single mom. I cry tears of joy every single day because I am so ridiculously happy. Never in my life have I known joy like this. When I was pregnant I joked "I wont be single forever" and now, I could care less if I never date again. I would not want to have to get a sitter and take one single minute away from her.

I left her once to go to court and once for a dentist appointment and I was miserable both times.

I get to snuggle up with her and love her and romp on the floor with her and carry her and hold her and dance with her and I never have to hear about a partner feeling neglected or about dinner not being done or the house not being cleaned. I don't have to argue that I will not let her "cry it out" or that co-sleeping isn't fabulous. I get to sing loudly and off-key and she is too little to know how bad it is! I get to glom up all of the beautiful first smiles - she laughed on Sunday for the first time ever!

I had a staph infection when I left the hospital and an horrific sickness called the norovirus over Christmas - that is when I thought a Daddy would have helped, we slept on the bathroom floor one night as I was too sick to crawl to the bed. I am terrified of getting sick and not being there for her.

But day to day, diaper to booby, turning tears in to smiles, abandoning my life for a few short years til she goes to school and I have some 'me' time again - woo hoo - I am loving every single second.

All of my friends have older kids and scoff at me as they say "just wait" Ok, well then that is all the more reason to sop up every second of this precious time. I dread the day she packs up for college. Being obligated til she is an adult is not how I see it, more like being devoted to her forever. But I still talk to my mom on the phone every day and visit her once a week. My brother is my best friend and Faith adores her Uncle Jamie! I am huge on family.

It is a good thing I started late in life, otherwise I would have had tons of kids, I'd be perfectly content being the little old lady who lived in a shoe

I love your post Laurie, it reads like a poem. My son is 5 now and I am with you on this one, I was a single mother by choice and we're a happy (very) little family.

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Originally posted by Dew:
I love your post Laurie, it reads like a poem. My son is 5 now and I am with you on this one, I was a single mother by choice and we're a happy (very) little family.

yay. Thank you Dew! Your son is adorable - how does he feel about younger women in the states <grin>

At what age did you start him skiing? I did not start til my 20s and I'd love Faith to start while she is too young to be afraid.

I also want her to do tennis, and guitar and karate... She'd better get all her napping in now - ha ha ha

Wow Dew, he's getting BIG....awesome
We really have been hanging out here that long now huh?

Laurie,
Ian started skiing at 2 1/2...I put him between my skis (on his skis) and down it goes...he loved it and always wanted to go faster, faster...
He started skiing alone last year (age 4 1/2). Why did it go so slow...probably because we didn't go skiing all that much: it's kind of (very) expensive and we do other things in winter as well we love..sledging is a big alternative to skiing, ice skating is here in town and so much easier to organise... But I am already planning on going back for 2 weeks to ski in Austria, next year: there we'll be able to do all 3 of these sports in the same village.
Ian has started tennis last year. It's hard, but he has a good teacher , who's good with kids and does not push them as much as the parents probably would like, so Ian is not frustrated, he loves his teacher, he loves going, but he just doesn't touch that ball as often as I'd like him too
I am thinking, a ball sport like basket ball, football, soccer, volleyball...where there is no other interface (the racket) between the ball and the body, is probably easier for the little ones.


Don,
yes, Ian was 18 months when I started on SFV. WOW, how have things changed since then.