i just don't get how some mom's can just go and go,i can't do it. i'm just not one of those moms
that want to be at the school for every stinkin thing they do!!or play games all the time!! i sound like pay any attention but, i do. i would just rather REALLY talk WITH my girls not AT them. my whole world is about taking care of my girls, how to get the bills paid and buy groceries and all the other stuff, i now this is all just kinda all over the place place but, i just don't know where to stop or start. i would love to have somebody to share all the **** with but, trust issues come up!! if anyone has any suggestions for me i would love to hear.
and even though this sounds like i'm totally nuts i'm not just a mom pulled to many ways.

Hello Holli,

Nice to meet you... Well with all the responsibilities sometimes we get burnt out...I know I can relate!!!... Although I would like to attend every PTO meeting thats isnt possible...
Re: the stress...Just take a few minutes everyday to do something for you.. Kinda like to recharge your batteries and group... We all need that from time to time.

Im new on this site myself but it seems to me this is the place to vent and learn...
So vent away ...

Hi Holli!

Welcome!

It is definately hard to be a mom much less a single mom. I hope you are feeling tons better! Feel free to vent and jump in where ever you want!

Holli I understand exactly where you are coming from. At the end of the day I'm so worn out that all I want to do is curl up on the couch and do nothing. I go to all the football games and the other stuff but there are times when I find myself thinking of other stuff that I could be getting done while I'm just sitting there watching. I wouldn't trade it for anything but I get the guilt feelings for even thinking that. I've done a lot of research on single mothers for a paper I had to write and trust me it's perfectly normal to go through this. We are trying to do the jobs of two people and sometimes there just isn't enough hours in the day for all of it and it takes it toll on us physically and mentally. I hope you are doing better now. Just know you are not alone.

Holli- I know exactly were you are at right now. I was talking to a friend today and telling her just how tired I was. Both mentally and Physically. I have 3 boys-17,13,11-that are all involved in activities. Sometimes youget pulled in so many directions that you just cant seem to get caught up. It gets so overwhelming. Some days you just don't know where to start. I stay very involved with my boys' activities and I am always there to cheer them on. Just last week my oldest, who is a senior, hugged me after his last marching band competition and thanked me for all I had done with the band and for being there everytime he marched. I realized that all the stress, the exhaustion, the $ was worth it. Hang in there. I feel better just knowing that I am not the only one! As far as the school stuff goes...I'm with ya! I hate to go to the school for that stuff! I force myself to go for conferences, but thats about it! Unless there is an assembly or play or something like that. I am not the "room mother" type, but boy am I a great cheerleader! Anytime you need to vent-feel free...

Holli- Girl I hear ya ! I'm not the type of mom to go to every single event , meeting, etc either.But I do make a point to be there for the big things.Its hard to find the energy to do everything a "proper " mom would do ( what the **** is proper anyways ? ) If I didn't miss anything anyone wanted me to be there for , I would be living in a carboard box , counting buttons and rubbing my shoeless feet!- **** I'm almost doing that already ....lol. We can't do everything ( even though we wish we could )

Prioritise, and organise.If you can't do those 2 things then you have no hope hunnie, I'm sure you are very capable of doing those.Biggest rule ever for a single parent is at the end of the day .... you have time for you ... if you don't have that , you don't have sanity.Read a book , have a glass of wine or 3..watch a movie ,do your budget,call your friends , make friends..whatever,you NEED that time.


Before you close your eyes at night , be thankful for what you do have because what you don't have isn't going to make a bit of difference in happiness when you wake up.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Mum of Two:

Before you close your eyes at night , be thankful for what you do have QUOTE]

That reminds me of a lovely saying a friend taught me:

Say Please in the Morning
And Thank You at Night.

Hi there! You sound overwhelmed and it is NORMAL!!!! I am telling you from woman to woman. I feel that way some times but you know what? I look at my beautiful daughter and I just go on. It is not easy and you are probably sitting there going "yeah right easy said than done" but believe me it is all about positive thinking and perhaps taking some time for yourself. You need alone time (even if it is after your kids go to bed) and enjoy it. I totally understand the way you feel and you are absolutely right you are not just a "Mom" you are a woman too and for that reason you must find what makes you happy. Believe me it is not like you are being selfish and taking away from your kids it is the fact that being happy with yourself will bring more happiness and harmony to those around you. Good luck and if it helps I'm (We) here to help.

quote:

Say Please in the Morning
And Thank You at Night.

I like that....nice and simple and yet speaks volumes.