Well, it's been an interesting night to say the least. It's finally almost 11:30, my son is asleep & I should be too. But, I'm not. My sons bottom tooth finally came out-tonight of all nights. He wouldn't go to sleep. He was tired as ever, I could tell. We didn't get to bed till late late last night & got up at 7-ish in the morning. He's a light sleeper. Anyways..I went upstairs, telling him for the 5th time that if he doesn't go to sleep, Santa can't come yet. That's when I noticed it. He had put another hole in the wall. The first one was about 6-7 mos ago. It was considerably bigger than this one. I had a heck of a time trying to fix that.
I looked at him & he gave me the answer..something about it being cold in there? Who knows but I didn't buy it. I ended up hollering at him for it. I felt bad & started crying. He then finally told me that he was angry. He doesn't like it when his older cousin or uncle rough house w/ him. I told him, 'why don't you tell them to stop?' He says he has & they just laugh & continue on. Also, something really hurt his feelings tonight too when we were out visting family. Apparently, his cousin (who is near my age) made fun of his freckles & called him a baby. He's always been sensitive but I didn't know it was like that. He also said that he thinks his classmates don't like him & call him an 'idiot'. I am just astonished at all this-coming out of a 6 yr old.
I don't know if I should punish him for the hole in the wall or what? Feels like something should be done..but, what? I also told him that we could tell his aunt to talk to the cousin & uncle to see if they'll back off. I don't know about the school classmates bit though. Feels like I should talk to the teacher or something.
Thoughts?

Here is my suggestion. I would give him the punishment of making him help to fix the wall. And clean up from the mess of fixing the wall. Let him know that next time You will be much harder on him. Tell him that you understand he was angry and that you are very glad that he shared it with you and you understand why he is so upset. But also that this is not an appropriate way to deal with anger the other choices could have been of been .. telling you or talking to someone else about it and or hitting a pillow or throwing soft balls at something that you have given him for this purpose. It may sound absurd but at my house we have the "angry pillow it's right on the Timeout step so if they are in time out they can go to town on the pillow and often the children will come in and just take the pillow. It helps them to know its ok to be angry but there are definatly appropriate and inappropriate ways to handle it. Also tell him that now that he knows how to deal with anger if he puts another hole in the wall or anything like that you will be punishing him severly . maybe taking away his favorite toy.
And yes I would talk to his teacher and unlce/cousins.

Yea-I'm definately going to talk to his teacher about stuff.
Also, my mom told me yesterday that the cousin is jealous because my aunt (the cousins mom) is spending more time w/ my son than w/ him. The cousin just got out of jail too, so... but, still!
My son, while we were at daycare today (where I also work)came into my room & sat by himself. I thought he was in time-out. Nope..he told me he wanted to be by himself because none of the other kids like him. He didn't say if they called him a name.
But, yea-the pillow bit is a good one. I am glad that he was able to tell me; I asked him if he could do more of that. I'm hoping he can do that first..then if there's still a feeling of anger, or whatever, grab the pillow.