Hello everyone! New to this site and thought I would introduce myself. I am 33 yr. old mom with a 12 yr. old daughter. I like many of you receive no child support and have been raising my child on my own for the last 10 yrs. I have reviewed the site and you all seem like a caring bunch willing to help anyone who needs it.

Hiya tootie_tatertot!

What a cute screen name :welcome:

This is an awesome forum - and a great place for support, advice & laughter.

Glad to have ya with us!

welcome!

Everyone is soo great here. I'm sure you'll love it!

welcome tootie_tatertot

:welcome:


I'm sure you'll love it here.I too am raising a ten year old with no child support so if you ever need to talk I'm here or feel free to pm.

Hey tootie and welcome to the site. Glad to have you with us. Just jump in any time the friends are FINE.

Welcome to the board and yes we are a caring bunch..can be a bit off the wall funny at times but you have to be to enjoy life right?! We are there for everyone on this board.

Hope to hear more from you.

SPIRIT

tootie_tatertot

hello nice to meet you. i hear that all too often. that is sad that he does not pay any support to you. hard to belief that people turn there backs on their own kids like that

Welcome!! I'm new as well, but I've found that everyone is so supportive of one another. Nice to meet you!

Welcome Im glad you found this sight I have been here since aug and everyone is great.Looking forward to your posts.take care Gail

I have just realized I never said "thank you" to those who have welcomed me. I have been dealing with a lot of issues around here, the big one being my mother. She is always trying to find something wrong either with me or my child and feels the need to make hurtful comments to me. I am at this time barely on speaking terms with her. I have tried to talk to her and we always leave the conversation with she is right and I am wrong. I already know the fact that I am not married is a big issue with her. She would rather see me unhappy with someone than with no one at all, that's the way it seems. I also know she has past issues and I feel like I am the target sometimes. I should add she is in therapy. Many say she's jealous of my life cuz I am a better mother than she was, some say it's a control issue. Whatever it is I just don't know how to deal with her anymore. I am trying to take a break from her but she's making that hard by calling and writing letters trying to make me feel guilty cuz I am not spending more time with her. Anyone else have this problem? I don't want to end this relationship totally but feel it's heading in that direction.

I'm going to assume you don't live with her... let me know if I'm wrong in my assumption! So assuming you don't live with her, I would say cut her off if she's hurting you or your children. Let her know that the hurtful comments she is directing toward you and your children are negatively affecting you in such a way that you feel it has an impact on how you interact with your children. You are not willing to take your frustrations with her out on them, so if she cannot refrain from her harmful behavior, then she will no longer be allowed to be a part of your life or your kids' lives. Hopefully by saying this to her, though, you might cause her to "snap out of it". But you may actually have to follow through on your threat. I wouldn't focus on the cause of her behavior because it's not really important. The point is that she is an adult and her behavior is unacceptable, and it's not your fault.

thanks alex...no i don't live with her..things have gotten a touch better...think she's beginning to realize she's driving me nuts and if she cont. i won't stick around.