Let's face it dating is hard, but when u add single mother to the mix its impossible. most guys my age are not looking for women like me. with "luggae" and the one that do look my way want to star a family because now a days people are waiting longer to have children. the problem I all ready have all the kids I want (one). am I ever going to find a man that is willing to take care of an offspring that is not his, with out him wanting another?

Yes there are men that do not care if a child is not their own and don't care if you have "baggage" be cause they don't see kids as baggage t obegin with. The problem is, for most of us, we have to change our Standard Operating Procedure for the guys we are attracted to in order to change the type of guys we attract. Change the places that you go to places where adults go instead of typical young singles. Go to Jazz clubs instead of hip hop, go to Live music instead of bars that play top 40. Go to seminars for self improvement. With all these suggestions you not only give yourself a better opportunity to meet smart, mature men but you increase your opportunities to become a smarter more mature you! And have fun doing it.

Don't look for a dad, look for a friend. Find someone that is mature enough for you to love and there will not be an issue of whether he can accept your son and he will be more likely to undderstand if you don't want anymore kids.

I soooo understand. Except that men who want kids of their own on top of the two I have are just S.O.L.
My tubes are tied, and i'm on the pill...and I don't ever want to be pregnant again (I wasn't very pleasant)
I think if I were to ever take an interest in dating somebody it would have to be a single dad or somebody who doesn't have or want their own kids...but is still mature, hardworking, kid-friendly...blah blah blah
Good grief, my expectations are high...could be single for a very very very long time....

works for me!

Just to let you know there are men like myself that it does not matter. I have 2 kids and I had a vasectomy already. I am recently divorced but the next woman in my future if she doesn't want to have more kids that is fine. If she has some I am understanding because of have kids of my own. They live with me full time so don't give up hope on not finding the special someone. Single mothers or fathers.

I often felt the way you are feeling but I have come to find there are men out there who will accept you and the children. I have a friend now who does not have kids and he wants to be in a relationship with me but for me, I just wanna be friends. So just be patient and you will find him when u least expect it.