Hi everyone,
I'm glad I found this site as this time of year gets really tough on me. I was born on xmas day and since I can remember I've had noone but me to celebrate it with. My children have made it a special, wonderful time, and I feel I'm betraying them that I get depressed about my birthday. They don't see it, but I still wish I could see this day as only xmas without thinking about the way my family gets together without us. I'm too shy to make friends, so I don't have a support network at all. Any kind words would be appreciated.
Regards,

Hi Jivegirl and welcome,
You are totally wrong,you now have the best support network around.
There are lots of good folks here,who will support you.
I know it isn't quite the same.But you are now part of the 'world's largest dysfunctional family'as Ty's Mom puts it and you have also gained almost 9000 new friends.
Good job that it is 'net' based as the mail costs would kill us all....lol

Anyways,
welcome, feel free to have a vent and blow off a little steam if you need to.

Mark

Hi jivegirl, Mark is right you have just found the best support network you could possibly imagine. Stick around and you'll find out.

Christmas birthdays can be tough, there have just been a couple conversations touching on that subject in different parts of the forum. One suggestion has been to pick a different time of year to celebrate the birthday, maybe go out to dinner specifically to celebrate the birthday that can seem lost in the middle of the holidays. Mine is a few days after Christmas and just a separate dinner out or something to celebrate it separately does help.

Hi Jivegirl,
While I do not celebrate Christmas day birthday with you, tomorrow (20th) is my birthday. All my life I have been sick of Christmas/birthday: parties, gifts, cards, cakes and on and on. Well, yeeeeeeeears ago I decided I was going to let everyone know it was my birthday and celebrate it all month! I am to be 41 tomorrow and still do that... HEY! EVERYONE IT'S MY BIRTHDAY TOMORROW!
I have a girlfriend born on Christmas day. Until she was 7 years old her father led her to believe the world celebrated her birthday (real church going family you can see..lol). When she found out the real story he changed his tune and made her feel extremely special for the birthday she shared.
Celebrate! Have fun with your kids and tell everyone you encounter that it is your birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Carla,
Don't ever let Trinity see that on this board that you celebrate all month...are ya nuts?? LOL I would really be in some serious mud if she thinks everyone did that for Dec. birthdays! Happy Birthday!

Jivegirl,
You are breakin my heart. I am so glad that you found us! We understand....as so many of us deal with the Christmas month birthday dilema. Me...not personally but my daughter's is on the 16th...not to bad, but it is hard for people to make parties etc. I let my daughter have a huge birthday party in the summer and then the real one we only do family...no friends at that time. That way she gets the best of both parties. I wish I could say more to make you feel better...I don't understand what you mean when you say your family celebrates without you but it sounds sad. I hope that you feel better soon. (((HUGS)))

Any kind words?

How 'bout,"we love you!, Happy Birthday!"

You too Carla!

WOW!!! I don't think I've had this many wonderful thoughts coming my way all year! You are truly a bunch of special people. I wish you could all know just how much you've cheered me up. I'm laughing and crying as I type this. I have never thought reaching out could be so uplifting! I now have all of your messages in my head to carry me through. Many, many thanks.
Tahlie

Happy Holidays Tahlie

And keep this "Happy Birthday" stashed away for the day you choose to celebrate on

Same here Tahlie...it is good to hear that you feel cheered up. I hope it really does get you through. Happy Birthday!