I've been dating for 6 Years as a single mom and I've never had a problem. Tonight my boyfriend broke up with me cause my daughter fell off the bed and cried and he didn't know how to deal with it. I'm so sad cause I feel like I let myself get attached to the wrong guy. Any suggestions?

Hi, Ask him to take a step back from the problem.There is nothing worse than having a crying child who has possibly hurt themselves.We as Parents go on the defensive automatically.Sit down with your b/f and a coffee and discuss what happened,why he couldn't handle the situation.Treat it as a learning curve.There isn't a book on children and you learn as you go along.
I can guarantee that there will be other instances and he will be better prepared to deal with a situation in the future.

Best wishes,

Mark

Hello bchbrbie,
I can't believe that anyone would break up with someone over something as silly as a child falling off a bed. Surely there was another reason or reasons that he felt he had to break it off with you. Children are for ever falling off things, hurting themselves and crying, and this will always be the case, no matter how careful we are. How did you handle the situation when your child fell off the bed? Did you freak out and blame him or were you calm? Was the child hurt badly? Kids are very resilient and get back on the feet in no time. If this guy means anything to you then you need to sit down with him and find out what exactly bothered him about the situation. Let him know that she is fine now(I assume she is). What sort of a temperment has he, how does he handle stressful situations normally? Has he had much to do with young children before. Just explain to him that kids cry often but as adults we learn to handle the situations as they arise. Maybe you could help him with some stratedgies which might help in these situations, you probably know a few tricks of the trade that help your daughter to calm down after she's been upset or hurt. I wish you all the best and hope that everything turns out how you hope it will. Take care.

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[qb]I've been dating for 6 Years as a single mom and I've never had a problem. Tonight my boyfriend broke up with me cause my daughter fell off the bed and cried and he didn't know how to deal with it. I'm so sad cause I feel like I let myself get attached to the wrong guy. Any suggestions?[/qb]

My suggestion is to write that one off! He is going to be a LOUSY stepfather if that is his response. Don't be dumb enough to think "he can change". I'm sure you're old enough and wise enough to know that doesn't happen.

Focus on your daughter, and forget the guy. I know it will be hard, but you can do it. Do it for you AND your daughter!

being a single mum and no support it is very hard to date.. apart from online dating... and they seem to always live miles away from your home town.. then you cant date them because you have to bring the kids along... great fun.. not