I am really having a hrad time dealing with not having him here for Easter. He left me 2 months ago for my closest friend and his parents said she wasn't welcome in their home. I find out today that they wil both be going there for Easter dinner. I have been dealing really well with most of this, as I realize I am in a better position and a much happier person without him. but at the same time, I was part of their family for 8 1/2 years and 2 months after we seperate, she's going there for holidays. I know that they will have to accept her, I just didn't expect it be be this soon.

And, the kicker is that his mom lives right down the street from me so I have to drive by there to get to my mom's house, who also lives down the street. He dropped my son off today and told me he would be there tomorrow and as soon as he left I just started crying uncontrollably.

Thanks for listening to me vent. Hopefully it will get easier with each holiday.

Hey Rachel
I do understand your feelings. My situation is a little different but I do understand the holidays. It sounds like you may have a decent relationship with your in-laws. If you do there is no reason you can not continue that. It takes somewhat of big people to do it, but it would be so good for your son.
It will get better in time. Christmas was the real hard one for me. I made it through and so will you. Keep your chin up.

Hi Rachel, I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I've never been married before, but my mom went through something similar when her and my dad split up. Try not to blame his parents though, they are not going to turn their son away. Instead it just shows how much of an a*s he is for putting his family in such an awkward position. He's alson not showing any concern for your son. Unfortunately people can be very selfish at times. But don't worry you will get over him in time, time heals all remember that and then you will look back at this and laugh at what a moron he is.

Happy Easter!

I feel like such a fool! I have to drive by his mom's house to get to my mom's, and twice they were out there in all of their glory. I just started crying my eyes out. To see her and my husband together just kills me.

As an aside, his mom did the exact same thing 21 years ago to his dad. Cheating with a friend, taht is. The only difference being that she took off to Florida and left my husband behind. They only started talking again a few years ago. She also married the man that she cheated with. So she didn't exactly set the best example for him, not to defend him AT ALL. Thanks everyone for your support. This is such a great forum!

I know you can't always tell a an by his family but often times you can. My ex's Dad slept with his mom's sister and my ex ended up sleeping with his brother's son's mother LOL (they were never married but it is still nasty). My sister's ex-husband's dad left his mother for a woman with the same first name and then moved in next door to his mom and then divorced her. So now there are two women with the same name (except for the middle) living next door to each other. Anyway, he expected my sister to live right down the street from him and his GF when he divorced her too. Since she moved back here form Kansas he has been through two wives. I personally think family can be a very good indicator.

Pita, I agre with you. I think that family can be a very good indicator. I thought that my husband was different from his whole family because he talked a really good game. he made it seem like like my son and I were the most important things in the world to him, which we obviously weren't. Oh well, you live and you learn, right?

Rachel I know it is hard for you to have it right up in your face. Keep on crying when you need to and you will get through it. As hard as it is once you walk right down the middle of it you will be a stronger person.You will make it through this one step at a time.
Lots of prayers.