I AM NEW TO THIS WEBSITE. IS THERE ANYBODY OUT THERE THAT HAS TROUBLE RECEIVING CHILD SUPPORT? I HAVE A SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND THAT QUITS HIS JOB DELIBERATELY EVERY COUPLE OF MONTHS AND IS STILL ABLE TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER EVERY SATURDAY FOR VISITATION. HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME AND NEGLECTFUL TO OUR DAUGHTER AND HE STILL GETS VISITATION. IT'S NOT FAIR!!! ANYBODY HAVE ANY ADVICE?????

yeah i have some advice,make it as hard as possible for him.Tell him u wont be home,be the bitch from hell.

Get a lawyer, take him for what he is worth, demand all the money he is not worth!!!! Than do what the first person said make his life a living Hell !!!

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Originally posted by KAS:
[qb]I AM NEW TO THIS WEBSITE. IS THERE ANYBODY OUT THERE THAT HAS TROUBLE RECEIVING CHILD SUPPORT? I HAVE A SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND THAT QUITS HIS JOB DELIBERATELY EVERY COUPLE OF MONTHS AND IS STILL ABLE TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER EVERY SATURDAY FOR VISITATION. HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME AND NEGLECTFUL TO OUR DAUGHTER AND HE STILL GETS VISITATION. IT'S NOT FAIR!!! ANYBODY HAVE ANY ADVICE?????[/qb]

I agree that you should hire a lawyer and get what your child deserves. I'm going through this right now. I have been trying to get my daughter dad into the courts about child support for 1 1/2. Each time like you say he will work for awhile and then quit his job. Just hang in there it will get better.

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Originally posted by KAS:
[qb]I AM NEW TO THIS WEBSITE. IS THERE ANYBODY OUT THERE THAT HAS TROUBLE RECEIVING CHILD SUPPORT? I HAVE A SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND THAT QUITS HIS JOB DELIBERATELY EVERY COUPLE OF MONTHS AND IS STILL ABLE TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER EVERY SATURDAY FOR VISITATION. HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME AND NEGLECTFUL TO OUR DAUGHTER AND HE STILL GETS VISITATION. IT'S NOT FAIR!!! ANYBODY HAVE ANY ADVICE?????[/qb]

I am also new to this website. I have a father (sperm donor) that thinks his 6 month call to me takes care of his obligation to his son. He does not realize that this child misses him and would really love for him to be in his life. I know with young children it is hard to explain the situation, but as the get older if you are truthful with them and tell them the things you know - "I don't know their phone number, where they are living or their job, we don't have the money because he keeps leaving." The child will learn what kind of a parent they have. It may take a while for them to understand, and it is very hard on you, but the child will come to realize that you have done everything possible for them and the non-existent parent is the one at fault. It is hard but you can do it. Just think positive and love your child with everything you have to offer.

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Originally posted by KAS:
[qb]I AM NEW TO THIS WEBSITE. IS THERE ANYBODY OUT THERE THAT HAS TROUBLE RECEIVING CHILD SUPPORT? I HAVE A SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND THAT QUITS HIS JOB DELIBERATELY EVERY COUPLE OF MONTHS AND IS STILL ABLE TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER EVERY SATURDAY FOR VISITATION. HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME AND NEGLECTFUL TO OUR DAUGHTER AND HE STILL GETS VISITATION. IT'S NOT FAIR!!! ANYBODY HAVE ANY ADVICE?????[/qb]

First of all you need to establish a case with the childsupport enforcement which is free and they will act as your attorney and go to to court for you ,you dont even have to show up.At least this way they will keep up with the aerrage and if a taxreturn comes to him or any money they will collect it first.If you have a courtorder even better you just let them knopw he is not paying the process may take a couple of month but its worth it.Take him back for contemt of court if you have an order.Good luck Bianka

I agree with the above post...there's no need to hire a lawyer when there are services out there that will help you for free. Also, just because vivitation is ordered, that doesn't mean you have to let the child go....if he takes you to court, explain to the judge what's going on. The first step you need to take is contacting your local Child Support Enforcement Agency. They will do all the legal work for you.

I agree with everyone, go to court! From my knowledge of a close friend who is going throught the same situation, here's what I can offer...

Once you file child support, whenever he decides to work on the books the child support will come out automatically as soon as his ss# is active and as long as your claim is case active, and when he quits his license will be suspended (if he has a car). Once the court subpoena his payroll, the company will supply his start and end date, and reason for leaving, which will then prove he quit. But you have to make the first step by putting your claim in court. And if he thinks he can work off the books, no, no, no darling, the longer he takes to work the more he owes, and there are new changes in the court system where if he doesn't find work within a certain amount of time, they will make him attend a workshop and find work for him...becuase if you go into financial hardship and have to go on the system, he will have to pay "them" back!!!!

Don't stop the visitations, that can work against you, handle the child support responsibily and it will all fall in place!!!

i haven't been to court and so don't really know what the ins and outs of that are, but the kernel of wisdom that helps me so much is: be the bitch--sweetly! and guess who i learned this from??? i noticed that whenever i do things overtly to "make his life hard", i get flak for it. but, the things that bother me the most about him are like: he doesn't answer his phone. he takes hours or days to return a call. if i want my son he's across town. if i want him to take the baby he has plans. so now i'm like that old "don't do drugs" commercial--i learned it by watching you!!! now whenever i'm feeling spiteful or need to prove i have the upper hand, i just agree agree agree and then throw in some monkey wrench. "sure, you can definitely see him today, yes absolutely--but we're out on the other side of town right now, and i have an engagement in four hours, so you can meet us at home and see him from 2:23 to 3:09, or else pick him up then and keep him until 7 tomorrow, because i have an appointment. what would work best for *you*?"

and it's not just that i'm a passive-aggressive asshole--i find that when i'm not doing this, not taking the initiative and gonig overboard to make sure what happens is not just convenient but luxurious for me, i feel pressured to agree to things that take me out of my way. and then i'm running around town on someone else's schedule resenting life just because he played the guilt card or the "*sigh* you're so unreasonable" card. just start pretending you're the busiest person on earth but yet sweet enough to give him the only twelve minutes you'll be home all day--believe me, he'll get sick of going to so much trouble.