I'm a single mom to one 13yr old son. We live in MN, he is a hockey player and goes to JR high. I just started a full time job about 6 months ago, after being self-employed for about 5 years...

I have been reading posts here and really connect to a lot of what's being said, especially about dating. Except I have the opposite problem. Being a harried mom with no time to really take care of myself, I don't feel like anyone would want to date me, and since I've been alone and independant for so long, I really can't see myself in a relationship again. (i dated a couple of guys since my divorce, but really I've been alone the majority of the time) I got past the "lonely" part a long time ago...And now faced with the reality that this might be all there is? Very Scary!

Anyway, cheers to all you moms and dads. I think we're raising a great generation of kids who will be more adaptable have more of a survivor ethic than 2-parent household kids...

Hello Inasmuch
I am fairly new but I have found that the SFV family really help..there are a lot of us here that are going through some of the same things..It is hard when it comes to dating when you are so busy but it isn't impossible you just have to make some ME time and when you do pamper yourself first and then realm into splitting your me time for dating...You will meet someone and things will work themselves out as you said you have made a big transition in terms of your new working routine...take things one day at a time and you may meet someone who feels just like you do or who has been to busy to date as well and you guys will make some adjustments together...good luck and keep being patient your hard work will pay off..Contiue to do a great job raising your son..and I agree w/ you as far as how we are raising our children and what we are teaching them....

Hey inasmuch,
Welcome to the family. You are correct this is a great place to be. I think I have been here for 2 years now and love everyone, even the arguers.
Listen dear if I can find someone who will accept all my kids, all nine of them, and my crazy ways you will too.
I know it is rough, hang in there and it will happen.

Hi inas much! I agree with you finding someone to date when you are so busy working and taking care of chilren is hard next to impossible. My problem is all I do is work and then take care of my 5 year old. But I really do want soemthing more than that in my life, sometimes it gets me down to wonder if dating again will ever happen for me. I don't want to be a 70 year old and all alone--thats what is scary for me!

Hello inasmuch, I think at one time or another we all have that fear!! Just remember there is someone for everyone..we just gotta find him/her.

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Originally posted by Laurie05:
Hello inasmuch, I think at one time or another we all have that fear!! Just remember there is someone for everyone..we just gotta find him/her.

Really? there's someone for everyone? Been doubting that sentiment of late. I'm 38, never been married and not currently in a relationship. I do date, but I'm feeling very discouraged lately, especially since I don't seem to be improving on my choices.

I am still hoping to find someone... someday.
LOL