I never would have thought that my ex's affair would lead to deeper insight, but after 3 years of depression, I have a better personal understanding of myself and what is important. Sometimes things are clear, but most of the time, I am still struggling. I have two children and their eyes sparkle with life.

I want so badly to discuss life and love and beauty with friends...however, I am the first of my friends to be divorced and it definitely puts a strain on friendship discussion.

What have YOU discovered that is positive about life after the ordeals YOU have gone through? Please share...I would love to hear.

Thanks

JoKenMom,
The insight I have found ... OMG is unbelievable! My depression and Migraine headaches took place the entire time I was married. Funny it all went away when he did. One revelation .. he was a symptom .. I was the cause. I would not stand up for myself and undo what should have never taken place. I waited 9 years to get a divorce when I knew it would end up that way after 1.
Since the divorce and now that there is clarity (no more anti-depressants, anti anxiety drugs or migraine meds... 7 meds a day!).. revelations come everyday as to who I am and what direction I want and can take my life.
Biggest revelation .... Opportunities are everywhere but they will not knock on my door. I am responsible for finding every opportunity I can.
Carla

Good for you for not waiting anymore. I waited for two years after being informed of his affair before I had the courage and clarity to leave. I can now be a good mom again, now that I am not plagued by grief and anger...although, I still get angry sometimes. Yes, we create our own destinies. Our own paths. When I'm older, I want to look back and be happy and feel fulfilled that I made the most of this life. I feel that I am on the right road to get there...although sometimes it seems to take wrong turns and take too long. Then, again, I don't want my children's childhoods to go by quickly! I need and want to appreciate every second they are here.

thanks for your response!