My name is Adrienne and I am a single mother of a 9 month old baby girl, Kathryn Margaret. She is my heart an soul. Kathryn's father decided to have nothing to do with her just after she was born - he never even came to see her. I decided not to pursue him for child support because he is very unstable, and both Kathryn and I are better off without him. I moved upstate to live in an apartment in my parent's house so that they can care for Kathryn while I work. But, now I am even more lonely than I was before because I am away from my friends. I never realized how lonely being a single parent is. Kathryn makes me laugh and we have fun whatever adventure we go on, but I do miss have an adult conversation. I love being Kathryn's momma, but sometimes I feel it would be nice to be Adrienne too.

I am so impressed with both of you. I am so worried about the future. I have a great profession, but it is all-consuming. I go to work early and get home late. How will I ever be able to handle a newborn? I don't know. I really don't. I just looked at prices for nannies and think I can afford one, but won't it still be incredibly difficult? How have you both been coping with work and child nurturing?

Hey ladies and welcome to the site. I think the main problem for any single parent is the lack of social life that goes with it. I happen to have a mother helping me while I get through school, otherwise my littlest one would be in daycare as she is 3. As far as friends go, the best friends I have are ones who are also parents and single parents. They understand time constraints, babies being sick, and good for nothin fathers. LOL.

Anyway, I am glad that you found us.

Thank you for your reply. Yes my paretns are wonderful and supportive. But trust me, I would love to be on my own. It bothers me though not being able to do it all myself. I know that must sound stupid. I take care of my daughter myself when I am home from work, but the only reason I am here is because I cannot afford to live out on my own. I guess there is a resignment of my daughter's father for that. I am sorry - Imust sound crazy. Just venting.

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Originally posted by GottaBaby:
[qb] Welcome aboard Adrienne! I just read your introduction and I think it is great that your parents are so supportive!! I have a 5 1/2 month old son and would really love to be living with my parents right now!! Comforting...with a great meal every night...oh well. Anyway, I have to tell you that my situation is the complete opposite of yours. I have so many wonderful friends that live nearby...but often times don't have the childcare to go out and be with them!

Anyway, I know you'll find a lot of friends on this website. Again Welcome! [/qb]

Going to work after having my daighter was difficult at first, but has become easier. First off, I am fortunate because my daughter is with my parents while I am work. So that alone gives me peace of mind. But trust me, I miss her every second I am away from her.

Taking care of my daughter is the best thing in the world. She is a great baby and is full of love. When I realized she loves no matter what, it made me realizing how easy it is to take care of her and be a great mom to her. Even on the bad days, when you don't know how you are going to do it, she gives me her sweet smile or gives me a hug and kiss, and I know everything will be fine.

Hang in there and let me know what I can do to help.

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Originally posted by scaredinNYC:
[qb] I am so impressed with both of you. I am so worried about the future. I have a great profession, but it is all-consuming. I go to work early and get home late. How will I ever be able to handle a newborn? I don't know. I really don't. I just looked at prices for nannies and think I can afford one, but won't it still be incredibly difficult? How have you both been coping with work and child nurturing? [/qb]

HI everyone single mom of a 10 y/o who has autism and adhd and a 1 y/o going to be 2 y/o who has no disability in march of this year. It's tough trying to raise them. I never have alone time @ all i live w/ my mom. I love my kids , but it's rough . My son's father gives child support whenever he feels like it. My daughter's father makes more effort and sees her when he can. My best friend of 24 years moved to North carolina 2 years ago. I don't have any friends @ all. Is there any single mom who lives in Fort lauderdale