Has anyone else out there had problems like this? If so what did you do?

My EX-husband (I left my abusive husband in 1996)and the father (relunctantly) of my child is still controlling our lives. Now it appears that he may be trying to build a case against me to take my son away from me. I am not afraid he'll succeed because he won't - I have 8 years of journals on my side if nothing else. I am just mad that after 8 years of not caring that this child existed all of the sudden he wants him.

My son is sick to his stomach...he gets a very upset stomach the week before a visit with his dad and now his dad is trying to blame me for it. He questions the way I raise, feed, cloth and school this child. He had demanded copies of shot records, health records and school records "asap". When I question the request he says "just in case something happens to him I don't look dumb". He hasn't cared all this time now all of the sudden he wants to know. He said if I don't like it I can take him to court. He said if I don't like it I can get the child support dropped but until then he wants them.

I am tired of the threats and tired of the hassle. I am tired of the toll this is taking on my son.

My son said he didn't want to go to visit his dad, I told him he didn't have to then- I won't make him go if he don't want to- my ex said he don't have a choice so now his stomach hurts more when he has to go than it did before.

Living in NV divorce is easy, we did our own divorce. I balked at signing joint custody, I wanted soul custody with visitation for him but was told the judge wouldn't sign it without a hearing. So, I gave in with the verbal agreement that we would work things out together. I should have known better. Everything that comes out of my Ex's mouth is a lie. I should have gone before the judge with my request. I had soul custody since the child was born. My ex refused to provide in any way shape or form from the day we discovered I was pregnant (we were married at the time) that is when the abuse began and it grew from there. I left just short of physical abuse, he had raised his fist at me and I knew the next time he would not hold back. We were married 9/94, separated 7/96 and divorced 10/02. In all those years I was soul care giver and provider for that child. Now, just in the last 4 months all of the sudden my ex starts this crap.

Sorry for going on and on...HELP please. I am going to contact legal aid Monday and see what rights I have and what I can do, then I'm going to tell my ex my son don't want to go visit next weekend and have him hit the roof and seek counseling for my son and me. Any other suggestions, encouragement or such would be greatly appreciated.

hello,
Sorry to hear about your situation.I don't have much advice.I'm always afraid that my ex will try to custody just out of spite not because he wants more time with his son. I beleive the counseling choice is a good idea. I don't know much about the laws in Nevada. Let him take to court if he wants to though. It will be his money. It sounds like he has some type of motive behind this. Do you know if he does. How often did he see his son prior to this once a week, month? next time he questions the way you raise the kids, asking him why it matters to him now, apparently he has been fine with it for the past few years. And if he wanted them rasied a certain way he should have been there but he he wasn't. Sorry, I guess that was a lil' mean, but I can't stand people who say things like that. Well good luck on Monday keep me posted.