Hi I am new here. I am now single with 5 kids...yes I have 5 kids. Did I really expect to be a single mother umm nope..LOL but I guess we all can say that. The only bad thing is I am not sure anyone will even want to date me. Not only do I have 5 kids but I will not be having any more babies. Some days I feel overwhelmed..just hoping to find some friends sometimes it is nice to have someone to bounce off some ideas.


Steph

Welcome Steph! Yup, I've got the plague too and certainly do not want to have any more children. Ahh, but that's ok, somebody is just going to have to fall in love with my three girls too.

This is a great place for support AND friendship. We enjoy a lot of plain old senseless chatter, something we all need in our varying situations!

Dont feel alone girl, I have 5 kids too and while finding someone is not impossible, finding the right guy is hard! But then again, thats hard for anyone! So dont feel bad, oh-and I am not having any more either!
Feel free to IM me if you want.
Be positive. Lisa

Hello ladies,
Can I weigh in here?

Let me say...yep... for a guy...dealing with a lady that has 5 kids?...that's a lot of food for thought. Really...and who could blame him. Especially if he already has kids of his own? But, I also know men who would welcome that ready-made family. I personally think they are very brave...or nuts. But anyhow.

This kids thing is not the only issue. My kids are older and not really an issue. But, can I find someone?? NOPE!! The dating climate has seriously changed since I was younger / single. I can honestly say...really... really... that the right man ..is not going to care how many kids you have. If you're what he wants, he'll deal with anything to make sure he wins you over.

At least that's how I approach things..but then again...I have been called peculiar....Old fashioned...etc.

Keep your chin up lady, loneliness hits us all. Some of us...really hard.

-paul. =0)

Chin up Paulj. There has to be a lady out there for you. You seem to be the kind of guy I'm looking for, so at the same time I'm telling myself there has to be a man around here for me, though I think they may be few and far between.

It is funny now that we are older and single and with kids. trying to find someone to have Adult conversations with or even someone to laugh with or even cry on a shoulder. It would be nice to have someone to grip about x's with LOL Add 5 little munchins in with it...LOL

well five, if you have the plague, I am sure we all have it. I think dating is more because we are out of practice, plus we have to think of our kids allso. fear not, a real man wouldn't be scared.

Thanks Paul...sometimes it would be nice to go back to when everything was easyer..LOL Not that I would give up my kids at all.

We are parents, there is no turning back, lol. I have a lot of fun with these two, for the most part, when they are not trying to get on my one remaining nerve

Face it..the dating scene has changed since we were all youngens...My recent divorce culminates my second marriage. I'm going to learn from my mistakes this time and not rush into any relationship or marriage. I'm doing a Christian divorce recovery workbook which says that healing from divorce takes about 2 years and that romantic relationships within that period are generally unsucessful (there was a statistic but I don't remember). I was divorced only a year when I entered into my second marriage.

My point is...don't be in a hurry and don't go looking (especially if you are a women)...both are mistakes I have made. You'll meet the right person when it's time.

I know it's hard to swallow. I want a male companion but I know I'll have to be patient. I'm also learning to set goals that have nothing to do with anyone but me and my daughter.

For now, live for yourself and your kids.

I am not sure the dating scene has changed, but I think we have.