Hi Im new here and all of you seem really helpful so im hoping you can help me with my problem. Im a single Mom now for about 6 years and times have been rough of course with money and trying to get child support from my ex. So I finally was able to get out on my own after living with my parents after my divorce. My children have always been good in school and never seemed to have any trouble even through the divorce. Well my children just started new schools in a new town. My oldest started his first year of high school and loves it. My two younger ones just started this week and my 10 year old son had a accident in his pants on Monday I was called for a change of clothes I didnt think nothing of it.Tuesday there was no problems,but yesterday he did it again and I was called to go pick him up this time. Today I kept him home thinking maybe he had the stomach flu or something and he is fine. I asked him if he was upset about starting a new school and he said no that he liked it and even had made friends with some of the boys. So today the Principle called and told me that she recommended that he talk to someone about this. I was offended and told her no that everything was fine. She said counseling might help. I just feel like such a failure and guilty for moving them away from the school they knew and Iam so upset. I dont have many people I can talk to this about My Mother is mostly my support but she is going through alot right now with her own illness i dont want to burden her with this. So any advice would help!
Thank You For Reading This LONG post.

Lin welcome to the forum. Please, do not feel offended by the principles or my similar suggestion. It doesn't make you a failure, to fail would be to not seek some more answers as to why this is happening. Have him seen by a physician at the very least as a start, and if this continues at all it could be something that a counselor would be a good idea for. Something apparently isn't quite right, be it physical or emotional. You know, we can try to be the best parents in the world, but we are only a part of our kids' worlds and sometimes we run into things that are bigger than we can deal with alone at home one on one.
Best wishes

Thanks Don For the advice. I signed the form today to allow him to attend the conseling.It is being offered at school. I really hope it helps. I think the biggest problem was I didnt want to admit there was a problem. But I see that maybe he is a little sad lately and misses his old school and friends. I think he needs help dealing with all the changes. So thanks for helping me realize that it doesnt make me a failure as a parent if one of your children needs outside help.