Hello! Not sure where to start, I guess this post could have gone under so many topics!!! I'm a divorced mother of 2 girls, I was married young for all the wrong reasons, got pregnant 6 months into the marriage and it was all downhill from there. I finally left him about 3 years ago, divorce has been final for 2 years. Setting the stage....we were a military family living in Los Angeles, the first time I left, I packed up everything and moved home to Pennsylvania to be with my family. After 6 months he had time to think and decided he wanted to try again and I couldn't say no, I wanted to be able to say I did everything to make my marriage work, so I sold everything AGAIN and packed up what I could fit in the trunk of my car, took my oldest daughter (than 6) out of school and moved back to Los Angeles, I was there 2 days and he told us to go home that he changed his mind again!!!! So, too embarrased to go home, I packed up again and his brother came to get me and we drove to Arkansas, where I thought my ex would be when he got out of the military and where I still am, waiting on him AGAIN, going on 3 years. Now here's the problem, I'm here on my own, no family, not many friends and my oldest daughter is tired of moving. Im here alone, about to go completely insane with my 2nd daughter, 7 year old and ADD. I want to move back to my family but I have a great job and the grass is always greener on the other side but I think I'd have more help there. My ex is still in the military so he is not around, see's the kids once a year and rarely calls....I just feel like I am going insane and need someone to talk to!!!!!! I feel like all I do is yell at my youngest and try to get through her meltdowns and my oldest is getting pushed aside because there's almost no time left in the day for her!!! HELP!

We have different stages of parenthood (I am only seven months pregnant with first child) but being alone in a town where I have no friends/family or support, I can relate to the breaking down stage. I just wanted to send a note of hope, maybe for us both. Love seems to hurt more than it is worth but our children will have to be our stregnth in the dark days. I hate telling people I hardly know my personal problem (like to come across as having life by the horns type of personality) but counseling does help and I have found help in it. It starts there and my counsler has encouraged me to reach out to people who are in similar boats, no matter how much I resist and here I am. Just reading your post made me realize there are alot of people who hurt and need comfort in the dark times. I hope you do find peace and friends who can be on your side...no matter what time of day. God bless and hang tough.

Welcome to you both! I hope you find this site as friendly, supportive, and fun as I do! We're a diverse group with many experiences to share. You're bound to find someone else here who has experienced the same challenges you're facing and can offer support and advice.

Yes welcome to the forum, both of you.

Hi, listen, I moved from Vegas to Texas because it was more affordable to live here, I bought a nice house and I'm trying to fulfill my daughters every need. In my experience the most important thing is to be able to support your self without any help, if you can do that in Arkansas I'd stay there, everything else will fall into place, it's better to go at it alone than been with your family and not been able to support your self. Try to find something more enjoyable that you can do with your kids so you don't have to vent out your frustrations on them.
Good luck

Adrian

Welcome to both of you!!