I am a 30 something single parent to a six year old � about three years ago I tried to rekindle my relationship with my ex � we were never married � mostly because my son kept asking me to and I though he had changed some what from his selfish ways and disinterest in parenting � he has no steady word and can go weeks and months without seeing him � or picking him up breaking promises there visits are usually short rarely an overnight visit even though he says he loves his child.

I recently initiated child support because he went a whole year without payments and then gave me sporadic payments less than fifty dollars a month and wanted a receipt. I refused to argue about money especially such a trivial amount. At court he requested a DNA test � Why probably out of spite � he knows that is his child we were e in a relationship for two years and lived together for half of those until I broke up two months after our son was born.

I own my own home and work to be a responsible parent, we take an occasional trip, enjoy time in the city going to museums, skating, dinners even just hand out in the park as I am not a �high� income earner.

I recently found out he is seeing an ex girlfriend � since he went on a visit to another state and brought my son back memorabilia to show me where he had gone and probably make her think he is this great dad. He is all about appearances I have been a little hurt by this probably because I have not began dating and also I don�t think he deserves happiness � Is there any advise for this blue feeling I have - re reminds me I am the one who broke up with him

Encourage,
Girl you have it going on and don't even realize it. I give you your props you own your own hame and have a job. This guy is the loser and you are the winner. In the long run this guy is the one who is missing out in your sons life. He will also regret it one day maybe. I'm a single mom 36 yrs. old with three children twins girl/boy age 12 yrs. and a 6 yr. old girl. I to own my own home and I ahve a job. Even though the dad's aren't in the childrens lives I as well as the children are fine with that because both dads have major problems, no jobs, drugs, many women, ect. Take care I wish the best for you.
Maywest

I just found out that my soon-to-be ex-husband has a girlfriend and I have been working my butt off to get up in the morning (at 4:30) and work my tail off to make ends meet and I haven't had time to go on a single date in over a year! It really hurts to think about how hard I am working to provide a home for my children and he is off with no responsibilities, etc! I am not sure what the answer to your question is. At least you can know that you are not alone in your feelings!

I know it is difficult - I have sort of lost myself in being a parent and not a "woman" if you happen to read essence magazine - check out the March issue - there is an article on finding time to date as a single parent and how important it is to you as well as you child. They need to see you as a loving invidual and what boundries to set up.

I am not jelous of his dating - I don't want him back - I just see that he is moving on or back to his ex- no responsiblities - he only works part time and pays minimal child support. So he has time and apparently money to run visit while I work, go to school � volunteer at my son�s school etc. It does not seem fair sometimes and becomes a little overwhelming. Keep you head up and don;t lose yourself - I plan to get out and put the word out that I am ready to date.

Good luck - I love this sight - it helps to hear from people who share your trials

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Originally posted by encourage:
[qb]I know it is difficult - I have sort of lost myself in being a parent and not a "woman" if you happen to read essence magazine - check out the March issue - there is an article on finding time to date as a single parent and how important it is to you as well as you child. They need to see you as a loving invidual and what boundries to set up.

I am not jelous of his dating - I don't want him back - I just see that he is moving on or back to his ex- no responsiblities - he only works part time and pays minimal child support. So he has time and apparently money to run visit while I work, go to school � volunteer at my son�s school etc. It does not seem fair sometimes and becomes a little overwhelming. Keep you head up and don;t lose yourself - I plan to get out and put the word out that I am ready to date.

Good luck - I love this sight - it helps to hear from people who share your trials[/qb]

I'm so scared!!!!!!! I recently found out I'm pregnant, about a week after separating from my husband and I found out he was seeing this girl. I'm at home sick EVERYDAY with all day sickness and he's out running the town with that whore. I've called her and told her he's married and has a child on the way, but for some reason she doesn't care. I have to beg him to go to the store to buy me milk and I see on our account statement he's spending 80 dollars a pop on dinner out. I'm so sad!!! I can't see my future through tears. I need help.

Michelles,
I feel for you. How long have you been married? I would give him a choice either he straighten up his act and leave the girlfriend alone or he has to go. If he cares about you and the baby he will do the right thing. Do you have any family or friends where you live? If so talk to your family and friends about what is going on and see what they think. Only you can make the decision on what is best for you. You can get advice from people but you have to follow your heart because it is not them that are in your shoes. And you alone know what is best for you. I will pray for you hope everything works out for the best for all of you.
Maywest