I am 5-months pregnant and struggling against depression. The father of my baby is so confused about the situation that has been nothing but a burden to me (and has also made me feel like one for him) Even though he "says" he wants to participate, he doesn't show much initiative. For some things he has said, I am scared he will try to take the baby away, and I don't know if he could really do that (I don't live in the States)Well, this whole situation has me so stressed out, that I have to picture my baby in my mind to be able to get up and go to work every morning. I am afraid that, if I don't find a way to recover, I am not going to be able to be the best mom my baby deserves. Can anyone tell me how you managed to be a mother despite of depression?

Welcome to the Club,

It's not will you be a good mother, it's YOU ARE a good mother, you are here asking questions and trying to be the best you can be, that alone says alot about your parenting skills. So give yourself some credit.

Here is a {{ HUG }}


All I can say now is hang in there, it will all be worth it 100X over when the baby comes..

Going through these nine months can be scary, I do not know everything about your partner but give him a chance. This is a overwhelming experiance for both of you and although it would be better if he would be more suportive of you, the sad reality is that some guys just do not have the balls to do so.. The one thing you have to do is keep yourself healthy and as positive as posible. You may have take a more independent outlook on somethings even though it is not fair. Lets face it you are mother now and your baby needs you to be mom now. If this guy has any heart at all he will come around.

It's sad that guys do not try to participate more in the pregnancey, I was there for everything and I would not have missed it for the world. Hell I knew more about a womens body then my wife did LOL, book smarts wise but the sad thing is alot of guys just leave everything up to the women.

maybe you should try getting him involved more by reading books like "what to expect while your expecting", that was a great book and it has all kinds of things for fathers. or maybe try to get him into planing some other things for the baby that can get him feeling like he needs to be there..

hell he is a father now !!!! Tell him to grow up and step up !!!

Lets face it, women have balls the size of the moon when it comes to parenting, there is no denying that. If any guy thinks its that bad he should try looking at it from a womens perspective

Remember you are not wating to become a parent... You are one now !!! and I am sure you will be the best mother in the world to your child..

Wow! Thank you for taking the time to write. Sometimes, all it takes is someone who tells you "hang in there, you will do just fine". Congratulations for being such an involved father, there are not many of you out there, and like you said, the other ones don't know what they are missing.

Thanks again!