Just this last September my ex (the father of my two youngest) remarried. I didn't and still don't have a real problem with that, good luck to them! The only thing that has really made me angry is that he has just sent me wedding photos of himself, his new wife, her two children and 'our' two children in a wonderful happy family photo!
Maybe I am over reacting about this but was it really necessary to shove this in my face? What does he expect me to do with these photos? Have them in frames around my house??? COME ON!!! Maybe I should start sending him photos of myself and various male friends (not boyfriends) having fun with my four children and see what his reaction would be?!

all i can say is:

do!

sometimes a laugh is the best we get out of these things. and really, compared to being angry and bewildered, it's quite a lot better!

on a more serious note: they're still your kids. and they always will be. there's no replacing a mom in anyone's heart, and you have to know that a snapshot is just that--it isn't a real-time representation of how blissfully happy they are out there and you aren't. snapshot. plus, kids hate being in family photos, anyway. :?

HAHAHA...Had to laugh at that one!!! What a great idea! It would be like those pranks you hear about where people steal a yard statue and then send the owners various pictures of (i.e. the yard frog sightseeing at the Grand Canyon, the frog hailing a taxi in New York, the frog visiting the Eifel Tower, etc.) You could send photos of the kids and a male friend playing at the beach, having fun at an amusement park, the zoo, the swimming pool etc...the possibilities are endless! (and quite the reminder of all the day-to-day memories that dad is choosing to miss out on)

On a more serious note...what WERE they thinking??? I think you should consider who sent it and what was the motivation behind their actions? I don't know about your situation, but if the same thing happened in MY situation it would have been a because the new girlfriend was trying to prove that she was the one wearing the pants in my ex's life and could control certain aspects of my son's life. Kind of a "power play" if you will.

Yes, the more mature thing would be to ignore it. But really, who says you can't photocopy the wedding picture, give it to a few girlfriends with instructions to doctor it in whatever way they want and then get together and vote on the best one. (of course, I would make sure that the kids NEVER heard about it or saw the pics!)Sometimes making light of a painful situation can be incredibly helpful in healing and getting beyond it.

I can soooo...
understand how your feeling..
My ex-husband broke my heart..
the same old story really..
a man that doesn't want the responsiblity of a family -we were to young ect..

But now 6yrs later.. he to is now with someone else, she can not have kids (perfect person for him), Ikonw he still loves me he tried to get back with me once but I was engaged at the time(To a real loser, to bad I didn't know it then.-although I don't think I would have gone back even then after the hurt he had caused me)
But now his new girlfriend will even call me sometimes..
I try to sound nice because I feel she is a nice person..
But I really don't want to talk with her - she calls him her honey ect..
Doesn't she realise what that still does to my heart.. He should ya know..
He has mailed me pictures of him self but never with her if he did.. It would defentally be hard for me to handle..Even after all this time..

The were saying that they may be in Vegas in May.. And want me and the girls to go up there with them cause we're so close to vegas.. But that would mean being around them like constantly being around them like we're friends for at least 2-3 days.which we are not(I haven't even seen him in like 4 yrs and then it was only a couple of times.

Anyways That was heartless and revenge is sweet.. But do you want to degrade yourself to his level???

Good luck to you I know he defentally wasn't playing fair..

hey guys - just wanted to say ... to all of you.. I'm so sorry. i ahvent been through that yet, but i can imagine what it must feel like.
also, my reading of the situation is a person doesnt really take photos and pass them around when they are happy. think about it, would you? Im in a new relationship now, and after all ive been through, i really couldnt care less what anyone thought of him or us together, least of all what my ex thought of us. So i knowi wouldnt do that.
My point being, if these people are taking these photos and sending them halfway across the country, they are probably getting together with someone for the wrong reasoins - to prove a point, rather than to be a part of a happy relationship. and you really should pity them for that. for not knowing better, and worst of all, after all of what went wrong with their relationships with you, they STILL don't get it, and probably never will! my advise is ignore and they'll realise how foolish they look.