I've lerked around and read many posts. Thought it would be polite to let you know a little about me but didn't quite know where to do my intro at. I'm divorced 6yrs now. I have a 17yrs old son and 2 girls 7 & 9. The girls are my ex-husband's and my son from a long term relationship many years ago when I was young and dumb. I'm not young anymore but still as stupid as I was then. I keep making bad relationship choices. At least I think so. They always end and my son seems to be the driving force. He's disrespectful to me and generally has been a tough child to raise. He's almost there, 18 in a month and he has his diploma (graduating is another story in itself) Doesn't keep jobs or help around the house much. My boyfriend of 3 years has called it quits. He seems so jealous, mostly of my son and his way of getting his diploma and lack of ambition. I don't think my son is the whole issue though, I loaned an extra vehicle to a friend in need and it's a truck. Whenever I need a truck to use for hauling something, usually my girls bikes, he says why don't I just get my truck back and why do i let people use my things. Just some examples. I did come here to get some advice on this relationship but it is dying it's own death now.
Everyone loves my daughters but many have a problem with my son. I did my best raising him. always worked full-time and still do. I tend to pick guys who are lazy as well. Work less hours have no children or maybe 1 part-time. If I need anything I get told that I have an able bodied son get him to help me. It would just be nice for my going to be ex boyfriend to just get out and pump gas in my car for me or run into the mini mart for milk, anything but he's a bump on a log. I feel like I'm rambling here. I think I have my answer about this guy anyway. Time to loose him! We lived together for a year but he moved out last month because of my son, he says. He doesn't like how he graduated high school.
I have more issues than time to get into. I must get to bed, an early work day tomorrow

Thanks for letting me ramble and say hello!
Kim

I know how you feel Kim! Welcome to the site...its really great Ive been here I think like a couple years.
Well, its like we try so hard to make everyone happy. But either a relationship or one of the kids sometimes give you more grief instead of helping you out...at least thats how I feel sometimes. And I think sometimes kids can get spoiled(for a lack of a better word) in that they know we try so hard to make up for everyone else shortcoming and they tend to learn to take advantage of our kindness, or love or whatever. And some adults dont really help out or understand the struggles we have.
Anyways, thats some of what I think. I have to go to my second job soon so see ya later..and good luck! Lisa

Thanks, Lisa! Nice to meet you. I have so many heavy issues but I'm taking my time and getting a feel for things and finding things on the site and where to post what. More stress!! LOL
Thanks again for taking time to say hello and you deffinately understand the single parent issues!

Kim

Your welcome! Don't get stressed out about where to post on this site...if u happen to post a topic in the wrong area ...I've noticed Don is usually on top of those things and will move it to where it belongs
See ya around!
Lisa
What part of PA you in? Im a HUGE Steeler fan

Just want to welcome you momto3inpa....hope ya enjoy it here.

Thanks, Laurie!

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Originally posted by Tucson Superwoman:
[qb] Your welcome! Don't get stressed out about where to post on this site...if u happen to post a topic in the wrong area ...I've noticed Don is usually on top of those things and will move it to where it belongs
See ya around!
Lisa
What part of PA you in? Im a HUGE Steeler fan [/qb]

Sorry, I didn't answer your questions sooner. I get lost in these forums and even where I posted anything LOL
I'm getting better at getting aroung though. Not much time to spend here, a few minutes here and there.
I live clear across the state from Pitt I may never see a live game but I still love them! They've always been a classy team, other than a few minor incidents that don't count as major character flaws LOL
I live in Lebanon, about 20 minutes from Hershey.
Gotta run, lots to do. Hope to get to know you and everyone better.
Kim

welcome momto3inpa. I'm fairly new here to past week or so. How do you do it? I still have a hard time managing my 5 year old and a full time job.

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Originally posted by firetopaz:
[qb] welcome momto3inpa. I'm fairly new here to past week or so. How do you do it? I still have a hard time managing my 5 year old and a full time job. [/qb]

I wonder myself!! LOL I have no support system, very little family and they have no time to help out. But I do have shared custody with my 2 girls, so it's 1 week on and week off. But having a bf makes it even harder to manage things. He takes up more of my time and exhausts me to no end!
Some health problems have made it really difficult, I've come close to quitting my job but if I do, then my kids will never have a home and just basic nice things. I don't spoil them and we have little but it takes all I have.
My son will be 18 and he causes much stress. too long to get into issues with him.
I guess I keep telling myself it will get better some day. year after year after year..... LOL
God is my biggest strength though. He gets me by even when I think it's not possible.
They grow up eventually, right?
It's fun to reflect on the good things and the funny stuff that makes my day.
Even my son's half-sister, she's 21 and getting married and having a baby and I still get joy thinking back on when she was little. I'm going to be a mess at her wedding LOL I get along well with her mother so we'll both be a wreck unless she gets tired of it and slaps me upside the head. Wouldn't be the first time getting smacked for making everyone cry LOL I sometimes can't help it. Mostly people either cry or laugh when they are around me, good thing it's more laughing LOL

I'm babbling here, thanks for saying "hello" and it's nice to meet you!
Kim

:welcome:

Welcome to a great place.