Not really sure how to start! O.K. I am a stay at home Mom. I have 2 kids(7 & 4). My Husband & I have been through alot of Bad stuff sence we got married. (It would have been 13 yrs in July). He also has alot of Depression in his family. so it has been really hard for me. Anyway. He has been really bad & in front of my kids. so I filed for separation. like I said I am a stay at home mom & the big problem is I never finished school(Me Being a stupid teenager). & I cant count on a family memeber. He wants to try & work things out but wont get any help. he is leting us stay in the house, so I cant get my oldest to school & not make this to crazy for them. I dont want to try to make things better. cause I know he wont do what he said. been there done that but I have no way to support my kids. My kids are my life & I cant put them through this anymore. no kid needs to grow up with someone like that. He used to be a good guy. but now its like something evil is in side him sometime. Sorry if I went on to long.
Orcalover

Orcalover,

I am very sorry to hear of your situation. It's a tuff one, no doubt about it. I wish I could say, I know how you feel, and this is what you can do - but I can't.

I am sure you will get some great advice. Here's my 2 cents. ... If you don't have family, or friends, or anyone you can ask for help - and the situation is abusive, you can go to a shelter for battered women.

If the situation is uncomfortable, but not impossible - and you can give it one more try - use that time to go back to school, and start working on your ability to be independent.

I have never been in your exact situation, so I can only try to think of what I might do.

I do wish you well, and hope things work out for the best.

You might even try retail. like working at wal-mart or something simular..or even an eye place if they don't have to be licenced. Working for eye dr's is actually a lot of fun. You get to meet tons of people and don't have to put up with to many irate customers.

Thanks. He's not abusive. He just gets mad easy & throughs a fit like my 4 yr old. Just add in the bad words. my kids have heard all of it. Now my 7 yr old is starting to through fits too.(like her dad) She has never done that before. Thanks for telling me about the job stuff. I will have to look into that. My only problem is What do I do with my 4 yr old. I have tried to put her in daycare before & she hated it & all she did was cry the hole time. its going to be really hard on my kids cause there use to mommy always being there if & when they need me. I also have to think about insurance.. Maybe it will be O.k. to stay separated for a couple months. that way I can get my little one in school & work then. he is a good guy & I understand that people have problem. But what I dont understand is how he knows he is losing a good thing & wont get help!
Orcalover

What about babysitting. if you take state assistance children you can make lots of money and still stay home. I am on in Idaho it is called ICCP which is state help for child care and pay my babysitter for 2.5 kids almost $600 a month and the state pays for most of it. I say 2.5 because I have a 1st grader so she goes over there after school.