I have been single for almost 2.5 years now and I just have not met the man to make me say I really want to get to know you. Yes, I have met men but none of them represents what I am looking for. I don't go to clubs, I socialize but the men there are either married, cheating married men or men out with their significant others, I am just about to give up on looking. Maybe that it I should stop looking and let him find me. I don't know if my standards are too high or if its because of my girls that I just don't want anybody around them especially if they are not going to be around for a while. Can anyone offer me any suggestions on where and how I can meet some someone.

I spelled intelligent wrong but I am allowed one senior moment.

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 32 and I've been a single mom now for 5 years. Everyone keeps telling me not to worry that the right man will come along. They've suggested singles groups with the local church more than anything else. I have yet to find a good group. If you hear of anything better (other than the local bars) please let me know. I'm totally feeling your pain

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[qb]I know exactly how you feel. I'm 32 and I've been a single mom now for 5 years. Everyone keeps telling me not to worry that the right man will come along. They've suggested singles groups with the local church more than anything else. I have yet to find a good group. If you hear of anything better (other than the local bars) please let me know. I'm totally feeling your pain[/qb]

I second, third, and fourth this topic. Where is Mr. Right?....I don't dare try looking for him, but I pray God will hurry up getting him right for me and my children....

Anything suggestions are welcome...Let's all stay in the LOOP!!!!

Believe it or not, it's the same for guys. I'm a single parent who doesn't get out much and pretty much chooses to be that way. I have yet to meet a woman that is not already married, married looking to cheat, or already has a significant other. Around here I've only met 3 types of women: stuck-up and conceited, not worth being with, and already "taken". So, I have (for the most part) given up looking...unless something(someone) just falls in my lap. So, here I am waiting around for someone "worth everything" to show up.

Ok So then you find an intelligent moan or woman and then you see if you are attracted, right? And if you are online... you see where they are from and if ya both have kids who is the one to move? the male? or the one with less kids? lol

In some ways I love the internet but in others it seems that you are only bring more heartache... meaning htat you find the perfect person but are they really... have they told you the truth with everything...have they told you everything...

oh wait.. being mistrusting online seems to be a turnoff right? but wouldnt asking htese questions show that you arent stupid? that you want honest in the relationship and that you are careful? How do guys look at that?

You know, it always amuses me when women ask where the nice guys are because it seems in engineering school (and later as an engineer) I was always surrounded by nice guys that couldn't get dates. Intelligent is less often mentioned, but these guys satisfy that requirement too.

I don't really know how to hook these lonely nice guys up with the women that seem to want to meet them, however. They never go out, and if they do they're never going to approach anyone...I often say that the best benefit any engineering office could offer would be to drop the dental coverage and provide a matchmaking service instead

i think this is the classic question, where do the intellegent men and women at. i thnk i am like you, i do not go to bars or to clubs. but even when i do, i have the bad habit on knot knowing what to say or how to say it. but with other people i can talk for hours and hours. but with some one who i think i have an attraction for,, well i sort of lock up.

I'm very social...but not in person. I can't just start up a conversation or keep one flowing very well. I don't do the bar scene because I don't choose to spend what little free time I have "shopping" for a partner.

I think that regardless of the single parenting thing...everyone experiences this as they mature. The sad thing is, I think it takes us giving up to find the right person. I don't choose to give up yet, but I keep hearing that people find the right one when they stop looking so hard.

Even though I am dating someone right now I wonder if I would even attempt to get out and date someone else at all. At the top of my list of things a man must be is intelligent. It is a must. Not to brag but my current man scored 139 on his military entrance exam.
If I broke up with him I think instead of touring the museums and such I would be touring IBM looking for a man....lol

Iam with Singledadaf with his comments.It appears to be the same here.But Iam wary of the 'falling in the lap' part.


Mark

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oh wait.. being mistrusting online seems to be a turnoff right? but wouldnt asking htese questions show that you arent stupid? that you want honest in the relationship and that you are careful? How do guys look at that?

If someone is bothered by being asked questions as you mention, than something isn't right is my guess. If someone was truly looking for the same things you are, they shouldn't mind answering a kazillion questions. I think that's true online or offline. How else are people supposed to get to know each other at first, to know whether they want to invest more time really getting to know each other, in the way that only time and experiences can show.

Not "shouldn't mind" Don. If the connection is there the questions flow freely. Haven't we all talked late into the morning with a prospect and never struggled to find subject matter?

I think intelligence is relative. Unless one likes to crunch numbers and quantify intelligence. Then it just becomes a statistic.

OK, all I have to say is that the kind, intelligent people tend to be the quiet ones...the ones who will go to a bar or club but are smart enough not to even try to pick up women in a bar or club because chances are, they're not quite the kind of person being with anyway. Besides, I'm the kind of person that likes to talk to people and find out anout them and in clubs and bars that is hard to do trying to yell over the music or talk "through" their friends. Well, all of you have a great and happy new year.

I've thought about cruising the local community college at lunchtime.. Find one fresh outta high school, one that hasn't been corrupted by the bars, doesn't have 2 ex-wives and four kids..

Then I can be all, "Hey baby! I can buy beer..and I don't live with my parents, do you want a Zima??"