I am a single mom of a soon to be 10 year old. I have been looking for her father for 9 years. The local child support office is no help. They say they can not find him beacuse he lives outside of the state. I have searched everyway I know how and I was wonder if anyone could give me ideals on something new I could do. My daughter has started asking many questions and wants to meet him. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank You

Hey Mammysmom, I am in NC too! I have a feeling that your daughter will not find what she is looking for if she does get to meet him. My suggestion? Leave it alone. Short of hiring a private detective or lawyer you have done all you can really. If he does not want to be found, leave him lost. Your daughter is 10. Old enough to understand that her father does not want to be involved and that mommy cannot do anything about it. Sad and hurtful, yes. I know all about that. Do what we do best and help her through it. How much more hurt will she be if she meets him and he still does not want to be around?

What all have you tried?
Do you know any of his relative's names? and about where they live?
Go on to whitepages.com *(it's free and try putting in his name in states that you think he might be in if that doesnt work then try to remember relative names and places and search those. You might have to do alot of calling but it might work.
My oldest daughters father is uhm..how do I put this the right way? Is hiding from uhm non-judicial type people if you get my drift and this is how I found him. I had to leave messages with his friends and family stating that his daughter would like to talk to him and to call at such and such number. You can also go on reunion.com and might be able to find him that way.
If it is questions regarding heritage though and you think that he might not answer or doesnt want to play the father role then I would suggest talking to a family member of his that remembers you and might not mind answering those questions that she has.
If none of these work for you or you have already tried these then reply to this post and I will scratch my brain for a few more ideas.

Thank You so much! It is not that he doesn't want to be 'dad' I just never told him and the relatives is kinda hard because I never met any of his. He was living up here when we met. I have tried finding a friend of his that I know is still in this area but no luck. I have tried the phone books online no luck. I think I have hit every free people search on the internet lol. I have an address on him but the police say that he dosen't live there and I have tried locating that by phone but again no luck. I will try the reunion.com. Thank You again.

Why the police if you dont mind me asking?
Uhm let me think publicdata.com is amazing.If you think that he might own property or have gotten married formerly or informerly then you can do a search for the county clerks office in that county on the internet. That will give you the name of his wife and broaden your search a little bit.
His friend is also a good lead so keep on that as well.
I am still thinking here so if you have tried these let me know.I will keep thinking for you.
If you know what clubs he may go to on a regular basis you can try that as well ( thats a last resort in my book though).
Keep me posted I am still thinking for you.

Try Zabasearch.com.

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I have not a clue but wish you the best of luck and lots of prayers. At least you can tell your daughter that you have done the best you can if you don't find him.