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Learning to Surf The Board |
Hi everyone. I am a single mom of 5 children: ages - 16 1/2 year old boy; almost 15 year old girl (will be 15 on the 13th of February); 5 1/2 year old boy (not in school because of when his birthday is); 3 1/2 year old twins (girl/boy). I am currently looking for a job, we just got out of a Domestic Violence shelter because my ex (we were married 16 years when he decided he no longer wanted to be married) made some threats to the homeless shelter we were living in (the director called and got us into a DV shelter). He then kidnapped my 2 oldest kids (I finally got my daughter back after 2 weeks, but my son couldn't stay with me because of where we were). My ex has filed to try and get custody of all of the children so we are in a custody battle. My boy twin has reverted to having separation anxiety to the point I can't get away from him even for a few minutes. My oldest girl has anger issues (stemming from being taken and kept away from me for 2 weeks, and her dad and grandma down talked me to her for the entire time). Not sure if anyone here has any advice or not. I am also having problems with the 3 little ones not listening (we moved into our apartment 1-15) they run (even though I have said not to and put them in time out) they jump (same consequences) they yell (same consequences). We have downstairs neighbors. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.
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"Board Blazen Parent" At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Hi, I replied on your other post. As for the apartment noise. It is asking to much to ask your kids to be quiet all the time and other people will have to deal. Did your landlord know you had the kids. If so other tenants will have to deal. Try asking them to walk instead of telling them to not run. I know the same thing but sometimes it works better saying it backwards. You may also be able to set times when they can make more noise and discuss it with the neighbors. Like between 9am and 6pm they can be more noisy, but after 6pm they need to be more quiet. Make quiet activities for them to do during these times, like reading or coloring.
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Learning to Surf The Board |
Hi again. The landlord did know about the kids, she knew how many and the ages. I will try asking them to walk instead of telling them not to run. I appreciate the feedback. Thanks.
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I am New to SFV |
Hello, I am a single mom as well. I have a 16 yo girl, a 9 yo girl and an 8 year old boy... and we live on the third floor of an apartment building in Texas. I know about noise. I just try to remain consistant about reminding the kids that there are others to consider. As long as the noise is not on going, I try not to harp on it too much. I work night shift and I have to sleep during the day. I am very sympathetic to both sides of the apartment noise factor. I know it is easier said than done but sometimes I have found you have to pick your battles, especially with teenagers. Your not alone  |
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Learning to Surf The Board |
Thank you, I needed to be reminded that I am not the only one going through something like this.
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