I am a 34 yr old soon to be Single Mom who was so tired of looking for Mr. Right in order to have what I know I've wanted all my life : A Baby.
Now my baby is due in June04 and I am ecstatic. Just curious if anyone else is in my situation....

AND, what I forgot to post is: I am single, 34 and due in June04 - I planned this pregnancy with a man who cannot be my mate. I've always wanted a baby and feel I can afford it as well as raise it well, as I was raised by a Single Mom. I have a lot of friends but no family, so I know it will be hard. The sole issue that burns in my head is what will I tell my child about the Dad when they ask? I am curious for ideas because I dont know what to tell mine! Any suggestions? I live by the rule of 'What you dont know, you'll never miss' as I never missed having a Father growing up. Any response is greatly appreciated!

I just wanted to say Hello, Welcome, and CONGRADULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think that if being a mommy is want you really wanted.. In some cases It can be easier having it done your way...
Some times fathers can be a thorn rather than a blessing (just as if you were taking to a single dad he would probally say about the mom)...
I as well am tired of looking for a mister right..Just because society says we're suppose to be mated..I love living alone and raising my children..Its hard but so gratifing...(but then again parenting is like that)..ANd being a parent is hard.. wHo says its harder just because your single.. If your in a bad relationship...That is much worse...I think if everyone in bad relationships could just see that it is possible to do it on your own..And get past that fear.. ANd realise how great it is to live alone. the divorce page of the newspapers in the world would be the biggest section..LOL..that probally sounds horrible..But I think so many people are in relationships for all the wrong reasons..
So Good for you...Good luck to you... And hope to talk with you again soon.

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Thanks Ariesmom! - it's nice to hear from someone who understands! I know the road will be tough but, like you, I also know it will be SO worth it! Theres something so soothing about Unconditional Love you receive from your child.... I am still not sure what to say about a 'Dad' when he (my unborn son)brings it up - but truly that's the only 'REAL' worry I have, everything else I know will work out. Who knows maybe I'll meet someone special and a perfect father figure before he gets the chance to ask! You just never know right?! Thanks for writing and I hope to hear from you soon!!!

Hello,
I think trying to be as honest as possible is always the right answer.. My baby who is now 3 (not quite a baby anymore, but to me she will always be...) had a diffenet father than my two older girls.. My ex fiance.. her father turned out to be abusive both physically and mentally..I now have a restraing order against him and have changed her last name to my ex-husbands.. so that me and my girls will all have the same last name.. She has not seen her father sense she was 3months old..And if I have anything to do with it never will...My ex-husband really plays no role in the girls life either he has seen them 3times in 6yrs and just recently has started to pay support..
I have always been honest with the girls that he just wasn't ready to be a daddy.. And doesn't see the joy that parenting can bring..But mommy does and always will.. As far as my baby I will have to be as honest as possible with her as well .. while trying to tell her easily that her father was a mean man that is better off as far away as possible..
I think the same honesty is the best policy saying would benefit you..
Tell your child they were wanted so badly by you that you decided that even thought the father couldn't be there you were going to make up for it by being SUPER MOMMMY...LOL
And that it was no way there fault but daddy couldn't be a part of there life due to his situation..It will probally even make the bond between you and child stronger...
Good luck and hope to talk with you again soon

Congrats on the new baby. My son was born on June 7, 2003!! When is your due date? My son has no father, ok, he does, or he wouldn't be here, but there is no daddy in our family. When he ask, I will say "Some families have daddies and some don't and that is ok, but we don't have a daddy in our family". At least, that is what I am thinking of saying. Let me know your due date, are you having a boy or girl, or do you know yet?? [EMAIL]null[/EMAIL]

Redtwenty3,
It sounds as though someone has given you a gift ... that is exactly what I would tell my child. While my daughters father is not the daddy she needs and he and I do not communicate at all .. I tell her I will not ever be sorry for meeting him because he helped me create the greatest gift I could have ever recieve ... HER!
Good luck!