Most of my life, I've felt like I don't fit in. I stubled on this site, and have offered a little help to a few, but again. . .I don't feel like I fit.

I had two children by 18. Did not fit with anyone my age - at the time. My friends were busy planning college, and where to go for summer break. AND . . . What 20 -22 yr old wants anything to do with a girl and two kids??

Married an older man. Mostly for stability. (You know what they say, first time for love, second for money) That left me feeling pretty low, and unloved. I was his sz 2 trophy and he was my ticket out of H***! When I was no longer a trophy, I tried to hang on but eventually faced the facts. . . That there were many other women/girls.

Now I'm 34 with two teenage boys. Alot of miles under my belt and some advice to offer.

Most of my friends are just starting their families and I find myself single again.?? I don't even know who I am. I've been a wife and mother since I was 16.

Can anyone relate to this? I'm just looking for me. . .

Well, you fit in here. Lot's of folks in your shoes here, I believe.

Thanks! It's just scary I guess.

There are so many things going through my head these days!

I know I can stand "OnMyFeet" for the first time, but where I'm going, what I'm doing - I haven't a clue!

Look around a whole lot more.. you will fit in just fine here. Even the "young ones" around here have a few miles under their belt and have advice to offer. Part of being a single parent.

:welcome:

Please stick around... I have often felt like I don't fit in but, I found most of the time.. that was my thinking, not the thinking of those around me.

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[qb] Thanks! It's just scary I guess.

There are so many things going through my head these days!

I know I can stand "OnMyFeet" for the first time, but where I'm going, what I'm doing - I haven't a clue! [/qb]

It IS scary, I felt that way at first after my separation, but you'll find your feet soon. Heck, having and careing for 2 teenagers is no small feat; everything else should be relatively easy for you.

Actually the boys are becoming fine young men! Through all of the events in our lives they have turned out to be stand-up, respectful, and really have it together. I know that one day two women are going to be very lucky.

When I look at them and what they have become, I don't feel so bad about my choices. I know that had I not been with their step-dad for the past 15 yrs that they would not be who they are today. I see their friends, and some of the things they do and say really disturb my sons. Especially they way the talk to their parents and girlfriends. My oldest even kicked a friend out of our home for being mean and disrespectful to his girlfriend. And he would not let her leave with him. He told her that no-one deserved to be treated that way. Then he called his friend and explained why he had kicked him out - mostly to difuse the situation. Now his friend is on his best behavior - at least around my son.

It's when I look in the mirror that I cringe.

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Originally posted by OnMyFeet:
[qb] It's when I look in the mirror that I cringe. [/qb]

shessh, I have threatoned to pull the mirror out of the bathroom, never know there was that many wrinckles on the planet