Hello:

I happen to find this site while browsing, it seems like a very supporting site.

I am a single mom of two children living in Ontario, my daughter is going to be 14 in March and my son is going to be 10 in a couple of weeks.

I was married for almost 3yrs and my son was 3months old, when he left for another women (which he is married to now). At age 11 my daughter decided she wanted to see what it would be like to live with her father, so I allowed her to and she is still there to this day (biggest mistake I ever made).

I have been in one relationship since my seperation that lasted 8yrs, I left him a two yrs this summer. I am now taking time to get to know who I am, what I want, and get my life together.

After I left my recent ex I had to rely on welfare to help me out(I injured my back at work and had not worked for over a yr.), since I was relying on welfare they decided to look into weather or not my ex husband (father of both my children) was paying the proper amount of support. They asked my ex to produce his finances and he refused, so they made me take him to court to be forced to. Once I sent him the papers he retaliated by saying he wanted joint custody of my son, but he also said I was an unfit mother and that my son would be better off in his full time care. I fought him and we had a childrens social worker involved and he sided with me, he said a lot of the problem was his wife not knowing where her boundaries were and that we should be in councelling for our children's sake (this is still going on, go back to court on the 24th).

Sorry this is so long, hard to sum things up in a paragraph.

Hello, wow reading this sounds alot like what I went through!! Almost to a "t"....I did end up taking my son to counselling and it was the best thing, so I do highly recommend it but allow your kids one on one time alone with the counsellor without a parent around, it will amaze you at what you will find out about your kids feelings and such, they open up abit more when the "fighting" parents aren't right there. If you ever wanna chat sometime, let me know :huggies: