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"Board Blazen Parent" Board Beacon Parent |
Hi,
Havent searched too much on these boards, but see I dont have to. My ex. and I were together for the first two years of my daughters life, but I couldnt take his emotional abuse any longer. Bought my own place, and things were ok. He's a control freak, and the more I broke free from that control, the more he (Hitler, I call him) didnt like it. He took me to court for joint custody, which is the way we dealt with it anyway. As I said, there was less, and less control over me, so he thought he would "get me" by going to court. Each time we went, he made himself look like a fool. He knew it too. Now he doesnt want to follow the court order, that HE wanted. Because it didnt work out for him. Long story short, he tried to block me in on the road with his car. I called the police, and they had him arrested, right in front of our daughter. Traumatic for her, triumphant for me. I had a restraining order placed against him. Me being the good mom that I am, did not extend this towards our daughter. His anger is against me, not her. I could take him back to court for so many things that HE violated in this court order, but I dont because I actually do want whats best for her. Besides, anything I do, will result in him trying to one up me. I bought a place in his home town, while he is still renting. He does not appreciate one thing that I have done. He does not communicate with me. He is nasty to me. I had to drop off stuff for her dance class, that I pay for. (by the way he does not give me any money for her support.)She wanted to say hi to me, and his girlfriend was there, so he tried to steer her away from me. My daughter is very strong minded, and let him know how mean he was. I am just saving all of this stuff up, because I dont need to live in his home town anymore. Not the way he treats me. I have gotten to the point where I have a life now. I am just saving up everything he does, so when I do actuall sell my place, and go somewhere else, I have it all. I am about ready to burst. Does anyone have this same experience, but have actuall moved? I cant afford to live here anymore. I own my own place, I pay for her healthcare, he gives me no money, but I know when I give him the 60 day notice that I'm gone, back to court we go. I do have a pretty good case here dont I? I cant afford a lawyer, and I'm interested in trying to find someone who will do this for me pro-bono. Anyone have any advice, contacts? Please reply. Theres lots more I can say, but it would take forever. This looks like the best site I've ever seen for this type of situation. I am glad to have found it, and look foward to posting, and sharing stories. Please reply!!! |
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"SEEKING: 25th hour & 8th day" At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Hey ..Sane One,
Were we married to the same guy? I got an income deduction order for support from him though. I keep wishing .. oh never mind .. most of us have wished the same thing many times... those mean thoughts. I do not know about your state but in Fl. if he has joint or "shared" custody you have to prove that it will be better than a latteral move for your child before you are granted "permission" to move away. My ex made it a little easier for me if I decide to move... he up and moved away (350 miles) with a weeks notice. Good luck .. I hope it works for you and your daughter. Carla |
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"Board Blazen Parent" Board Beacon Parent |
Oh, I hope not. To think there are two of this freak? Scary. Was/is your ex a momma's boy too? I do want to move out of state. I dont think it would be a big deal if we stayed in the same state, but I know in the court order, I have to give him 60 days notice. What can they say when I cant afford to live where I do anymore? I dont know about what my state says, and its not the easiest thing to find out. When I've called before, to ask a question, I get transferred to 100 different places, and no one can give me an answer. Any how thanks for replying. I think I'll be around here a lot. I dont feel so alone now. |
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"Mod Member on Board" Board Beacon Parent |
Hi Renata,
Whilst not being able to help you out with advice.I can however extend my welcome to you.I hope you find the advice you are looking for.The board gets very active when our North American/Canadian cousins get here. Best regards, Mark |
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I am New to SFV |
Hi,
Sorry to hear about such a bad experience. I can't advise you about legal matters I know little about. Just keep looking fo a layer through some wome's organisations. My experience is different but I understand the pain of being in dead end marriage. I'm in the process of divorce altough i hated the idea at first. My husband moved out when our son was only 1, without any solid reason. He left me in depts on my credit card assuming I can affort to pay for it , while he worked p/t and enrolled F/T at uni. This included his uni fees and apartment lease-never returned. Coincidently, he just been granted permanent resident visa 2 months earlir. earlier. We've met at uni, he was a scolarship student from Africa but he wasted it by studying little and partying a lot. He said he stayed for me and insisted to have a baby right away ,which I thought was a prove he was serious about us and of course my love was blind. I always dreamed about marrying someone out of my backgound ,ethnicity and I was impressed with this unknown to me culture, where people appeared to accept everyone. Now,after two years in limbo I realise my husband was playing game with me and I decided to cut him off and get a divorse. To my suprise all my african friends are distant now and don't support me anymore. I have 3 year old boy from this marriage who is the best thing out of this marriage. We have formal agreement about visitation with his father every 2 weeks full day, but he only sees for about 2 hours, sometimes less frequently. I guess there is no painless seperation or divorce but if you understand it is for the best ,you can get through it one day at the time and have another chance. I hope you find the right way to sort out your problem, or find the way to cope with this in the least painful way,so you can look forward to the next day and enjoy life again rather than getting consumed by stress and anger. |
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I am New to SFV |
Hi,
Sorry to hear about such a bad experience. I can't advise you about legal matters I know little about. Just keep looking fo a layer through some wome's organisations. My experience is different but I understand the pain of being in dead end marriage. I'm in the process of divorce altough i hated the idea at first. My husband moved out when our son was only 1, without any solid reason. He left me in depts on my credit card assuming I can affort to pay for it , while he worked p/t and enrolled F/T at uni. This included his uni fees and apartment lease-never returned. Coincidently, he just been granted permanent resident visa 2 months earlir. earlier. We've met at uni, he was a scolarship student from Africa but he wasted it by studying little and partying a lot. He said he stayed for me and insisted to have a baby right away ,which I thought was a prove he was serious about us and of course my love was blind. I always dreamed about marrying someone out of my backgound ,ethnicity and I was impressed with this unknown to me culture, where people appeared to accept everyone. Now,after two years in limbo I realise my husband was playing game with me and I decided to cut him off and get a divorse. To my suprise all my african friends are distant now and don't support me anymore. I have 3 year old boy from this marriage who is the best thing out of this marriage. We have formal agreement about visitation with his father every 2 weeks full day, but he only sees for about 2 hours, sometimes less frequently. I guess there is no painless seperation or divorce but if you understand it is for the best ,you can get through it one day at the time and have another chance. I hope you find the right way to sort out your problem, or find the way to cope with this in the least painful way,so you can look forward to the next day and enjoy life again rather than getting consumed by stress and anger. |
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I am New to SFV |
I don't have a similar experience, but I can tell you that documentation matters, so keep documenting and include lots of details. Good luck!
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