I am very new to this site---just joined today. I have a concern and am hoping I can get some insight.
I have been seperated now for just over a year. I have had a lot of access to my daughter, no questions. I have always been on time with support payments and have helped my wife out as much as possible, even though I am feeling the crunch financially big time.
I have my daughterevery weekend, but on Sunday nights, my daughter hates to go home. Last night she burst into tears and begged me not to go. Her mother showed no emotion what so ever. I was on the verge of breaking into tears but stayed strong and promised my daughter I would see her on Tuesday night.
I know my wife is taking care of her, but I question how much emotional care she is giving her. Everytime I try to discuss it with the wife she just says "She is just tired--- she will be fine."
I have asked about counselling for my daughter, but I can't take her without my wife's consent.
Any advice would be appresiateed

Right now my husband and I are dealing with a similar situation with his children. When he goes to the drop the children off at the drop off point at 8:00pm the kids start to cry they want to stay with him they don't want to do home with their mother. So we have tried numerous times to turn the two days we have them for dinners into overnights. She refuses becuase she claims that it is taking away her time with the children. Which means they get back to her place at 8:30 get ready for bed and sleep. So she feels her quality time with her kids is when they sleep.

I would suggest if your daughter goes to school see if the nights that you have been dropping her off at turn into overnights. That way the person the child goes home with the child stays with until the next morning and it is an easier transition on the child to have the other parent pick up from the school or daycare than it is from the other parent.

My step-sons feel that their mother is taking the time away from their father when they get dropped off. Belive me I know how much it hurts to to listen to your child cry for you and the mother disregard it for just being tired.

I also wanted to commend you on being a father who is there. My husband is one of those fathers. I can only imagine how much you had to fight and are still fighting to maintain your relaitonship with your daughter. It has been a long hard fight over on my husbands part to show that he cares for his children. The ex-wife likes to play the game of using the children against him. LIke pay me more money and I will give you more time. It doesn't work like that. But with family court you have to prove your case, build up true evidence against the other parent not just he said she said stuff. Custody is not a battle it is a war.

ATM, welcome to the forum.
How old is your daughter, that might help with getting some good input on her reaction to going back home to Mom's.
I don't know the whole story, but it could even come down to..... at your place for the weekend it's mostly freedom from life's routines. If going back to Mom's also means school for the week, or daycare while mom goes to work, that sort of thing. Hard to say without knowing more......
Could also be that she is being less "attended" to while at mom's, sometimes the weekend parent will be more attentive/do more together making up for the time lost the rest of the week....
She could still be feeling the anxieties from the separation, sounds like you drop her off at home "she begged you not to go", perhaps she's wishing that you were all still there together as a family.
Like I said, maybe a little more info to go on, those are just a couple of ideas that came to mind.

Thanks for the wonderful replies. This is a great site andI am glad to know I am not alone out here anymore.
My daughter is just about to turn 4, and I agree that she is suffering from the anxiety of the seperation and would still like us all to be together. I do my best to explain things too her, and try to be as constant on the weekends as I believe the week goes. All I can do is keep trying to do the right thing. Thanks for the advice---I am going to use it.