Hey Paul ..glad to see that you made it through D-Day. Wasn't this week moving week too? You must be under so much stress with everything. Hope your holding up well!

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Originally posted by SillyGirlsnGA:
[qb] Hey Paul ..glad to see that you made it through D-Day. Wasn't this week moving week too? You must be under so much stress with everything. Hope your holding up well! [/qb]

Yep, It was moving day!! Stress? That's an understatement! I'm sorry I haven't check in sooner. Just got situated at my sister's house for a week or so till my new house closes. Supposed to be on the 10th. We'll see. I'm much better now. The kids are doing great too. We're all VERY excited! I normally try not to get too excited but I just can help it this time.

Something happened to my the day after my court date. Something changed. I guess I needed the closure. I now no longer long for reconciliation, I just want to take care of my kids and continue on the path I was on, to make a future for myself and my kids. I gave my ex (even that's easy to say now!) some proceeds from the sale of the house. I know I didn't need to, I just don't want my youngest feeling sorry for her. Anyhow, I really appreciated you guys being here. I try to check in a little more regular, but I am much farther away from the office than I used to be so I'm spending a lot more time traveling than I used to.

Thanks, ...really.

- Paul

Hi Paul,
I have been away for a while and just read the complete thread.
As many have said take it day by day and treat everything as a learning curve.I have been on my own with 3 girls 3,6 and 7 for 15 months and am still learning.It takes time,but as I have said to others in the past try to sleep even a little.Because a 'burn't out' Dad is no use to anyone.Don't try to do so much in a short space of time.Everything looks difficult at first but it does get a little easier each day.Concentrate on the future.

Regards,

Mark

Hi All,
Checking in. Everythings OK. Just like you all said , slowly getting better.

Ex came to visit the kids last night and take the youngest for ice cream. The older 2 are very indifferent towards her, she notices this, and I warned her that this was the case. It's very stressful for them. My youngest usually has tears at bedtime after my Ex leaves. That affects me the most. Why my kids have to be subject to this I'll never know, or understand.

For me personally, it's a lot easier to deal with my Ex if I don't see her, but, that's out of the question with her visitations and all. Even, though she is a different person now, she still has the face of the person I was with for 20 years, to make matters worse, (without exaggerating) she is a VERY beautiful woman. Oh well.

On a different subject, can't wait to get out of my sister's place. Pretty crowded. Kids are stressed here too, Oh well, possibly as soon as Monday we're outta here.

Keep us in your prayers, and I'll do the same for you all.

Thanks

Keep hanging in there Paul. I too hope your transition from your sister's comes soon, and goes well. Just good that she was there for you.

Those tears from the kids are the worst. It's hard to see your kids hurting but I think in time it will get a bit easier for them as well, as they become accustomed to the new life as well. Shame that any of our kids must accept this sort of stuff as a part of their life.

One of my hopes, is that our kids learn from us in dealing with their future families and relationships.

Hi guys (and ladie's, of course ),
Tuesday MAY BE a early closing date on my new house. That would be so awesome! Then I could stop living out of boxes. Sheesh. Kids are good, but they want to move on as well. So far, last few days have been pretty uneventful. I guesss that's a good thing.

Nothing more exciting to report, except maybe, ...uh... I saw this incredibly cute waitress where I have coffee periodically and do paperwork.

I asked her for ...you know, just coffee or something,...she told me she doesn't have time...she's a single mom of 2 kids... Wow! How bad is MY radar? How could I tell this beforehand? She's cute as hell, though.

Wondering whether to still pursue or back off. I know I'm gonna get a lot of flack on this one.
But, I'm a short guy...and we (short guys) don't normally find too many women who are the right height for us PLUS beautiful to boot.

Oh well.
Let me hear your opinions. I'm ready
I think.

Wow! Sounds like you're doing a LOT better! Closing on your house soon, and seeing hotties again... good for you! Don't worry about your height... there are plenty of shorties out there that are cute to boot... (wink, I'm 5'2"!) LOL! I say go for it!

Hey Paul,

Sounds like you are doing a lot better. I liked to say the worst is over, but with kids they never are. No flack here from noticing us women but if you do start dating, just take it slow.

Good luck on the new house. I know you must be excited and anxious, but you wait till moving day is here and you start unpacking. That's always fun. LOL

Hi All,
I'm sorry, I have not been on here more often. Just a quick update, it's late here. We've moved in to the new house. Things are so different (better). Kids love the house, neighborhood, friends, etc. And so do I. Much less stress, other than unpacking and decorating, that is.

Handling things much better. Appreciate you all being there for me. My busy season for my business is starting to ramp up, so I don't know how often I will be able to post.

I decided to ditch all the old furnishings and start new. I have the kids helping me pick things, they love being involved in the decision making. It seems to make them feel like they actually matter. Ex visits once a week, when she's not sick or stressing about things. She wanted to provide for herself, now she's learning how difficult that can be without proper planning.

Oh well, I can't worry about that anymore.

Haven't dated or even gone out. Not that the desire isn't there, just not really into the dating scene. (Being short and heavy doesn't help either).
Although, I've gotten few offers, can't really take them up on them. ( they're married, and I'm not that kind of scumbag).

Anyhow, things are progressing well, kids are adjusting, everythings OK.........for now.

If anybody knows any very cute, tiny women in their early 30s and in the Phoenix area, send them my way. =0) Need to have a sense of humor.

Maybe that didn't come out right. LOL

Thanks to all. Cya later for now.

- paulj_in_phx

Hi Paul, glad to hear everything is going better for all of you. Don't worry about dating right now... you'll get to that later. You have a lot going on right now anyway. It's good that you have been able to start completely over and include the kids as much as you are in what is going on. Keep us posted on the progress!!

Sounds like things are going pretty well Paul. Good to hear. And yeah there'll be plenty of time later to worry about the dating

Hi all, checking in here,
Got my new furniture in. It's starting to feel like home. It's very interesting decorating without having to worry about SO's opinion. Ex cam by to visit and was blown away by my "sense of style" was how she put it. I told her taht in the past I just went along with what she wanted and so now she get to see what I want.
It's kind of a cross between contemporary and warm modern. It's turning out nice.

Well, I'll talk to you all later. Good night all.
=0)

Paul,

I am glad that things are coming together for you and your children.
You deserve it.


Good Luck & God Bless.

Hi all,
Checking in again. My business is ramping up for summer. Not a lot of time for anything else. Family routines are pretty much set now.
Kids are doing well. Adjusting I guess. The seem happy until their mother visits, then they are depressed for the next day or so. Oh well.

Me, I'm lonely. Haven't been alone for over 20 years. It's kind of difficult. I don't know what I would do if I wasn't so busy. I've tried talking to a couple of ladies that might be near my age, but alas they are in serious relationships. Oh well.

Keep me in your prayers and I'll do the same for you.

Thanks in advance. =0)