Hi everyone this is my fist time here im 31 years old. I been looking at some of the post and i see lots of info so i singup. im a father of 3 kids 9 6 and 3 the oldes one lives with me the other 2 with my x . the oldes is with a dif woman i have full custudy of her. but now she getting to that point where she wants to live with her mom. its killing me i love my kids and i would not know what to do if i lost one of them. even knowing i can see her anytime i want.
how do ppl deal with this kind of problem? I do have lots more to ask but i will post them later.

Welcome to the forum J4Y.
I have full custody of my youngest daughter. And I can only imagine how hurt I'd be if she wanted to go live with her mom instead. At least in my situation she truly knows where she's better off, so she is content with just visiting mom. Sometimes it's not about where they are better off at though, and then I'm sure it would be even harder.
Sometimes kids also have the "grass is always greener" thing going on. They start thinking the place they visit without all the regular routine and responsibilities would be the funnest place to live without really realizing that the routines, responsibilites happen there as well, assuming the other parent is doing the right things in life.
Not knowing more of your situation it's hard to say how to deal with it.

:welcome: J4Y, glad u found us here. I am a 36 yr old momma who has 2 boys, 11 n 12. Both have same dad. My 12 yr old is Cody and he wanted so much to live with dad last yr.....broke my heart but let him...even tho I knew it would not last....but I had to let Cody experience that.
To this day Cody has only said a cpl times he wanted to live with dad again.....but he was mad at me!! That dont count lol.

You have to ask urself, "is mom good for ur daughter to live with"???? Is mom stable? Is mom a good role model for daughter?

Maybe daughter just wants to be around mom more cuz of the "woman" thing. Changes are gonna be happening to ur daugher....she may feel uncomfortable talkin to u about certain things.

I wish u the best of luck!!!!

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[qb] Hi everyone this is my fist time here im 31 years old. I been looking at some of the post and i see lots of info so i singup. im a father of 3 kids 9 6 and 3 the oldes one lives with me the other 2 with my x . the oldes is with a dif woman i have full custudy of her. but now she getting to that point where she wants to live with her mom. its killing me i love my kids and i would not know what to do if i lost one of them. even knowing i can see her anytime i want.
how do ppl deal with this kind of problem? I do have lots more to ask but i will post them later. [/qb]

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