Hello, I've been lurking here for a couple weeks now and want to say that reading through some of the posts really helped me through a very rough spot recently so I wanted to say thanks.

My short tale of woe is this.

I was divorced about 6 yrs ago after a horrible marriage. I have two great kids. The divorce was easy but the ensuing 2 yr custody battle was bad. My ex eventually kidnapped my kids and took the to Canada. I tracked them down and got the kids back. She split and I have had full custody for almost 4 yrs now.

While the custody fight was going on I met a woman and we spent almost the last 5 yrs together. Built a house and were planning on getting married. She passed away last month from cancer so here I am almost 40, single with two small children and wondering if life will ever get better.

Just reading some of the posts on this board helped me see that I'm not the only one with troubles and gave me strenghth to try and start moving on with my life.

Thanks

Welcome to SFV and I am sorry to hear about your loss. There are a lot of people here with encouraging words and great wisdom, as I like to call it I haven't lost anyone like that so I dont know what you are going through but I can optimistically say that life will get better for you. If you need anyone to talk to or just vent to, there are lots of people here, me included.

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Just wanna say :welcome: and hope u stick around, as I know you will get lots of advice. You have come to the right place for venting....count on us to be here when ya need to laugh, cry or just let out some steam. I can only imagine what you have gone through...but wish the best for ya.

Hello and welcome I am sorry for your loss this must of been very hard on you and your children.You have come to a great place and will find lots of people with help on just about everything.take care Gail

Welcome aboard routerman. Sorry to hear of your recent loss, and the previous problems with the kidnapping etc. Keep your chin up, just as you got through the custody situation you'll find better days ahead again. Best wishes.

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Welcome to our site Routerman. So sorry about your recent loss and that you are feeling bad.

And try to stay positive. That's wonderful that you have custody of your children.

Please stick around with us! Like everyone else said - there are wonderful people that will listen and have lots of wisdom.

They all say welcome to "our" site. Now it's your site too so welcome to your site.

:welcome: That fella one post up ^ Jaydsdad
said it better than I possible ever could.

It's your site too now.
You have found a good place where some amazing people hang out.
Glad you found it.

Welcome to the forum .. you've come to the right place for support, advice and fun! Being here has really helped me work thur some tough times.

I am sorry for your loss. I do believe, life is full of challenges we do not understand, but all we can do is go forward - and be as happy as we can.

I am glad you have your kids! Stay strong.

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Thanks everyone for the kind words. I'm slowly starting to get a handle on my grief and am trying to start moving on with life.

I work on computers for a living (24 yrs) and frankly hate sitting in front of one posting in my spare time LOL.

I have however been around the block a few times, I was in the Navy 9 yrs, I've been almost all the way around the world (mostly SE asia and the middle east), I have lived in or visited almost every state in the Lower 48 and I'm pretty well versed in the "joke" of a legal system here in PA so if I see a thread I can add value to I will put in my two cents from time to time.

I do usually have IM clients running (MSN,AOL,Yahoo) so feel free to PM me and I'll give you my SN.

Thanks again.

welcome and I am sorry about your loss. I just have to say this forum is wonderful. Nice to find a forum where people are going through the same things where you are given great advice. The truth is given good or bad. They have helped me realize that being told what you want to hear isnt always helpful and I thank them for that. All the best to you and when you are down you can always come here and be sure that you are in good hands.

and welcome from me too, Routerman.
Yes, I am sorry about your loss. I know...I made a point never to forget. Especially for the children, the people that left us must live on in our minds. It hurts less as time goes by. I promise.

Welcome to our site. Come share your woes and stresses b/c many of us are able to help you. I'm sorry to hear about your sadness. It must be tuff to but you will surived b/c all single parents oddly find a way to make it thru to another day.

HUGSS and stick aroud we are here for you.

SPIRIT

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Hello everyone, my name is David. Well, my wife of almost 5 years told me she wants a divorce. We have a 2yr old son. I've been coming to Pakistan and Iraq since 2001, left my job at the post office to come here to make a better life for my family. After 2 yrs working over here she told me this and I missed two years of my sons life I can't get back. I'm going to school and will have my bachelors in another 2 yrs. I tried after 3 months to talk her out of it and now I'm tired of talking.