Hey Dail I just saw this post! Ditto on what K'sdaddy, jaydsdad and Don said. Stay strong and focused and just tell it like it is and lay all the facts out for the judge to see. No time now to feel sorry for the ex. Will be praying for you and daughter as well. Please post here and let us know how it goes.

Thanks everyone for your support, court went .....? her attorney hadn't filled any affidavits, so the judge read all mine and then her attorneys office faxed over an affidavit. the attorneys talked to the judge in chambers. I never saw him (wore a tie and jacket for no reason lol). the whole thing lasted about 45 minutes and he said he would make a ruling so now I have to wait. I hate waiting. But I think it went well I will let everyone know as soon as I hear.

dali - sounds like your side was more prepared! That should work in your favor (I hope!)

Let us know what happens!!

*keeps fingers crossed*

I swear, I am sitting on pins and needles over here.

Fingers and toes crossed!!!!

Been thinkin and prayin for ya today!!! We are all waiting to hear how it went.

Well it seems you had plenty of positive thoughts going your way today, I too was hoping it went well. I hope you get your answer soon, and that it is the right one.

Sounds like you went prepared. I so hope it paid off Dali.

I am saying a prayer that the Judge comes back with a good and reasonable decision for you.

Any idea when you will hear?

The EX called this AM (5 times) to try and settle before the judge makes a ruling. I think she knows she didn't fair well at the hearing. Part of me want's to work something out with her and be compassionate, but the other part remembers that she showed me no compassion for the last 8 months (maybe longer) and I need to worry more about my kids and not about her. She says that if she ahs to pay me child support she won't have any money. But she never stopped to think about the fact that I had to get a second full time (30-40 hours) job just so I could keep my house and she wanted me to pay her child support ( I help with daycare, clothes, food, formula, dr bills, I cover them on my insurance, I gave her all the baby furniture and bought stuff for my house.). It is hard to stay strong, and not feel like you are being mean, but I am not trying to hurt her, I have 4 kids to worry about and I can't be nice to her at their expense that is what happened in our relationship that caused problems and she still can't see that.

Anyway, I still haven't heard anything but as soon as I do I will let you know. Believe me I am very anxious to hear the outcome so I can make plans to deal with what ever the judge decides. Not being able to plan my weekend or the next week or month is making me a little loco (that and to much jave this AM). So bear with me if I am posting a lot today. Mind is a little on overload right now.

Dali, you are doing what you need to do for your kids, nothing else matters right now. You can be compassionate and understanding by letting her have her time with baby. She wasn't bending over backwards for you to even let you have your time with your daughter.
I know its hard to stay strong esp in front of your children, you are not mean, she may be hurt but will get over it. It's all about the KIDS, I wish she could see that.
Do you think you will hear something today or tomorrow or does it take longer??

Laurie05, thanks for the support, I really don't know how long it takes to get a ruling. I can tell you it can't be soon enough.

Stay the course Captain. She is panicking because you did better than she expected and is now in damage control mode. I said earlier. The time for healing comes after and after isn't here yet.

Thanks for the compliment to my post Dali. The admirations go both ways, sir.

Sitting on pins and needles here. Please post as soon as the ruling comes in.
Do not compromise now man. Stay strong and do what you have to do for Grace. She is more important than your ex. Grace will always love you. Don't give in- for her sake.

I just noticed something Dali. If you scroll up really really fast, it looks like Grace is laughing in your signature.

Here's to hoping we hear something tomorrow. I can't believe the ruling wasn't rendered on the spot. Let us know asap please.