I was wondering how it was going, figured I'd wait til you updated. Wish there was something to say to ease the anxiety. Keep hanging in there, I'm quite surprised it's taking this long. At least, if I read a different post correctly, you got to see her on her birthday?

Actually it was the day before her birthday, but yes we had a party for her and she had a great time. I treasure every minute that I have my kids and even more so when I have them all together. Thanks Don for your support, as always you are a pillar to so many here. Keep up the good work.

Toughen up Dali. You're doing great. But you gotta eat properly and sleep regularily. I know it's tough. I've been in your shoes many times but you won't be much use to Grace if your too weak to hold her. Don't try a big meal. Snack on healthy stuff all day. Carrot sticks and such.

We're hanging in with ya.

I have a suggestion for you. I was so full of anxiety the other day, when not even after 4 days after we got a new agreement into place, my ex. contempted it again. I was shaking. I took a power walk, and said affirmations to myself while walking. The pain in my legs was better than the pain in my heart. I felt much better after that. To get to sleep, I try to imagine putting myself to sleep. Notice your body, is it clenched and tense? Try to relax a little, going from head to toe, concentrate on relaxing each part of your body. Not only does it help, but its taking your mind off whats going on in life. I usually fall asleep before I get to my toes.
This having children and having to fight over them is truly worse than any anxiety there is, I think. Hang in there. :huggies:

Dali, you are not allowed to even have your time w/her until theres a ruling???? If so that just bites!!!! Still prayin for ya.

Laurie05, I get her for 3 hours on Wed, and 8 hours on Sat, but no overnights. Sometimes my boys have to go 2 weeks with out seeing her.

My problem is I have this little movie theater in my had that keeps playing bad movies and I can't shut it off. So even when I do fall asleep I have a bad dream and it wakes me up. I am sure once there is a ruling I will be able to move ahead, and get myself back on track.

The judge fell for the ex's excuse about breastfeeding, so I only get Wed overnights and every other Fri overnights. I am also required to pay 300 a month in child support so now I am going to have to give my house to the bank (she won't let me sell it). Because I can't afford to keep it. I don't have a problem paying the support but she makes 10k more than me and I have 3 other kids, she only has 1 other kid and her ex pays her 600 a month in child support.

So sorry to hear that Dali. The silver lining is the breastfeeding thing cannot go on forever. Maybe in the future, you can get the judgement amended.

The part that really kills me is that you will have to give up your home. Somehow the courts just don't get it.

I'm on your side Dali. Stay strong.

dali - I am sorry to hear this news. I agree with JD .. the courts do not seem to have a clue.

There is no reason your ex could not pump out the milk, and you could bottle feed the lil one. Working Mom's do it all the time... and I'm sure your ex does it - since she makes 10k more than you.

Hang in there. I know it's hard .. and life is far from fair - but you have to stay strong for your children. We all hope karma works ... so keep it good.

Hugssssssssssssssssssssss

For the time being....at least you were granted overnights, instead of her being picked up after she's fallen asleep. And you can always file for a modification in the not too distant future, she won't be breastfed forever. Just trying to find the bright side.

As for the house and support, I'm just about speechless at the moment. I take it that's because her name is on there also. So she'd rather take a big ding in her credit than let you sell?

Dali
This is crummy.
The entire breatfeeding thing makes no sense.
It is doable on Wednesdays but not on a weekend. grrr.
and as for the house. Perhaps you can ask your lawyer to go after a court order to sell it.
I am sure a read of that being done before.

Please eat. or you are going to force me to Fed/Ex. soup to Iowa.
wishes and prayers to you as always.
Harmony

I don't understand it all. I mean how can one child be more important than another.... your home is not just your home it is your children's home. I'm livid... I know that doesn't help.

Like Don said, bf doesn't go on forever. You can get this ammended. UGH!

Eat Dali Eat! She's just stupid

Had my first overnight in about 3 months, and we had a blast. We went to a free concert in the down town ped mall, and she danced (LOL) and went down the slide on jungle gym about 50 times. She slept through the night.

And here is the kicker "mom" didn't send any breast milk for her! So how important is the bf to her? And she called like 10 times to check up on her. I am just glad I finally get the chance to spend real quality time with my daughter.
I am making the most of it.

That's great Dali. And yes obviously that breast milk wasn't so important, but keep on the bright side of things, I know it had to be so wonderful to wake up with Grace there Won't be too long and you should be able to get visitation modified again without her excuse of breast feeding, keep up that journal in the meanwhile noting that breast milk was not even sent. Judges don't like finding out they've been lied to.
Glad you had such a good time.

Happy for you Dali. Keep up the battle and keep up the journal. Funny how her biggest issue never even entered her mind when she was preparing Grace. She showed her motives clearly there. You'd think if breastfeeding was such an issue, she would have shoved about three bottles in your face along with the diaper bag.

Anyways, the time for healing has started and it sounds like Grace was having a good time healing. Well done, sir.