Dali - am so glad to hear you got to spend some quality time with Grace!!

The ex is obviously only using the breast feeding thing as a way to keep you from your daughter. I have never understood how anyone can use a child as a means to hurt - but a lot of people do it.

I agree with Don, keep that journal - I'm sure the judge will be very interested in finding out the reality of the situation.

Hugsssssss

Overnights are going great, but the ex has sent no breast milk for 4 visits now. I talked to the attorney and based on this and some other inconsistances in the ruling I think I am going to appeal it.

You will no doubt have a good case next time in court Dali. Keep writing it all down. Glad that overnights are going well, I read your posts in the fun lounge as well including the boys enjoying the time with Grace also

Geez Dali...kinda envy you at times. Mine will never wear diapers again, never stare at her hand in realization that it's attached to her again, never get scared by Santa or the Easter Bunny for the first time again. It may be a short time right now, but it's the best time.

I'm sure in the future, you'll get more time too.

Hey Dali just saw you will be gettin to spend more time with baby. Just goes to show how important the breast feeding really is and you know it was all a scam. I tell ya some women just don't know how good they got it when Dad is Trying to step up to the plate!!!!

Yeah Jd is right just to see them in diapers again or all the 1st's are memories in the past. My kids are 10 n 12 so its been a while ago. lol

Anyway, hope you have many great visits w/her!!

I filed the appeal based on all the inaccurate info in the first ruling, dates were wrong, financial info was wrong, and some other things. OF course the ex went nuts, called me names, said I was cheap for not wanting to help pay for our daughter. I can't figure out how she can say that, when I have offered to pay 1/2 of all expenses and not have her pay support.

On a better note, I had a great weekend with the kids. And the boys mom said she would help me this week with my computer homework. I did get some financial aid and caught up on bills, so things aren't all bad.

Good Dali, perhaps this appeal will end differently for you. No doubt the ex was mad, but hey, least she could have done was stick to her alibi and send some breast milk

Glad the weekend treated you well.

Hey Dali,

Just checking in. You sound more relaxed. Happy to see that.

Keep us up.

Thanks Don, as always I appreciate your kind words and support.

JD, I am so much more relaxed. I am not rich, but I am no longer behind on bills, and I get to spend real time with my daughter. I don't think my ex every understood when we were together why I always would get up in the night for every feeding, and would change the diaper. I have done it with all my kids. I can't understand a parent who would want to miss a second of that. They grow up to fast and I don't want to miss a single milestone.

So well said Dali. Hear Hear!

She asked me to have diner with her to discuss trying to settle this thing out of court so I agreed. I thought maybe she was ready to compromise. Boy was I wrong, she told me if I stopped fighting this and let things stay the way the judge has them now, that she would give me more time with Grace and things could go back to the way they were between us. I said I don't understand (I was pretty sure I did, but wanted clarification). She said if I agreed to the 2 day visitation and the child support that I could have Grace up to 50 % of the time and we could work on being a couple again. And then she asked me if I missed having $*x with her. I can't belive I feel for her crap again.

So now she is trying to bribe me with more time with Grace and with $*x if I agree to keep paying her child support. I couldn't believe herr nerve. I kissed Grace goodbye, and left the restaraunt. I told her I wouldn't waste anymore of her time dicussing these issues and that it could be settled by the judge.

Why do I even think for one second that she will change. I feel like I have a big brand on my forhead that says idiot, or sucker. I am done being nice to her. I am not going to share anymore information with her, or help her in any way. All it does is end up hurting me.

Thanks for listening to the rant.
Dali.

Your second last paragragh proves you are not any of those things, and so does the manner in which you handled it.

No shame in hearing what she had to say. And especially for not getting taken in by her. I guess that explains what the whole shirt change business was about the other night

Your a good man Marine, don't let her get you down. That was low attempt at manipulation.

Dali u r not a sucker or an idiot. Maybe if you had given in and agreed to what she wanted then that would have been a different story. Glad you are sticking to your guns and staying strong. Good Luck!