Thanks Don, I appreciate that!

And thank you Laurie for your support.

Well done daliman! ...and thanks for all the compliments. You made me all warm and fuzzy inside, friend.

Well, I'm only fuzzy on the outside, but I can say, Well Done, Dalilamakarmaman

Dali that is wonderful and well deserved.Im glad that the battle is over for you.Enjoy your kids they grow up way to fast hugs Gail

I should have known that her true colors would come out before this was done. She is now objecting to the wording that my attorney used and has 12 paragraphs of changes she wants made. She won't discuss them with me in person, and wants to do it on the phone when I have my kids. So now she is saying she'll just let her attorney talk to mine (more bills), I told her I was done, and any changes would have to be agreed upon, and that she would have to pay for them, or she could sign it the way it was. I am tired of bending over backwards for her.

So now this thing that should have been over by Nov 1st is going to drag on at least until Thanksgiving. Maybe even until the first of the year. She is such an idiot, we have court on Nov 12, if we don't have it settled by then we have to go, and it will costs more money. AAAGGGHHHHH!
Why are some people so stupid when it comes to putting their kids ahead of their own selfish needs.

Thanks for listening this week has been really bad because I had such hopes for finishing this and moving on.

Dali

Attorneys can be so persuasive - especially to people who are selfich to begin with. He tells her she objects, so she objects. He tells her she shouldn't discuss it with you, so she doesn't. He tells her he will go over it with your attorney, so she agrees. Too bad just doesn't realize he doesn't CARE how the case turns out!! He just wants to bill as many hours as possible. He's feeding off of her feelings toward you and her selfishness and taking complete advantage of the situation, as divorce attorneys often do. What she doesn't realize is that you could probably come up with a better agreement all by yourselves and save a lot of money! But her attorney says not to give you too much because it's not in her best interest...so she complies...and wastes everyone's time and money.

I know I'm not saying anything you don't already know, I'm just expressing my frustration with the whole legal system in regards to divorce. I hope you are able to get this done soon! It's hard to focus on the important things when you're busy arguing about whether or not the weekend should start on Friday at 8 or on Friday at 6.

Dali,

Why does she want to drag this out for so long? Does she have unlimited amounts of money to pay to the attorney. You are right, what a freaking moron. I mean really, it is all pretty simple. She needs to get her act together and do what is best for your child together. You guys will be part of each others life forever. Not just 18 years. There will be weddings, funerals, birthdays, grandchildren, on and on and on.

My X was lousy, he still is, but I work with him as much I as possibly can. It is what is best for my little boy. I know you are a wonderful dad. You seem to be outstanding. I think she is just a little jealous of you. She knows you are a better father than she is mother.

By the way, my X is moving with his sugar mama to South America where she grew up in some sort of Dutch Colony. And he was worried about me moving to NC. It will be a cold day you know where before I let my boy spend 8 weeks on anothe continent

She want's everthing to go through her attorney now, so we will not be settling. Someone has convinced her that the judge won't give me joint physical and legal custody. So much for wanting to work things out. I always thought the problems between her and her sons dad were caused by him, wow what an eye opener, I actually called him and appologized for not seeing the whole picture.

Sounds to me as though someone wants to drag this along for whatever reason. I hope that you can get things worked out Dali. Good luck to you!

Best of Luck to u Dali.....darn, and no cofee as a crutch lol for her dragging it out. Wow I hope u do get joint custody.....maybe will open her eyes as to what a great dad u are.

Nothing new to post about, whe is still delaying everything, she has made it so we can't get into mediation until after the first of the year, so we can't get a trial date till then. The courts are backed up 6-9 months, so I won't get to trial until at least July, maybe later. Whe won't settle, she won't even discuss switching days anymore, she brings stuff up and then changes her mind. If I don't agree to do it just the way she wants, she says that is why we shouldn't have joint custody, because I am to difficult to work with. Just thought I should update since it had been a month. Maybe next month I will have good news to post.

Thanks everyone for your support and good wishes over the last year, has meant more than you will ever know.

Dali

Sorry she's still being her lovely self... Wish I had more to offer in terms of advice or reassurance, but I guess you just gotta hang in there. It's too bad some people are allowed the opportunity to be parents in the first place. I hope this all works out in yours and Grace's best interest in the end.

Been a while since I updated but I just had to share. I get my daughter every weekend for 1 one overnight, 2 weeks ago it was Sat@5 til Sun@5 and her mom called and said she wasn't feeling well could I keep Grace overnight on Sunday, which I gladly did. Last weekend I had Grace Fri@5 till Sat@5 and she would have let me keep Grace longer but she thought I had a date and went out of her way to try to disrupt my weekend. This weekend I again had Grace from Sat@5 til Sun@5 her mom just called and again is not feeling well and wanted to know if I could keep Grace overnight, which I happily agreed to do. The reason for my post is that she refuses to work out visitation with me, we could have settled our divorce in Oct, but she says Grace is to young to have more than 2 overnights with me a week. But in the last 2 months I have gotten Grace 5 extra overnights because she either didn't feel good or had plans with her boyfriend. It isn't about Grace being old enough, Dolan was younger than Grace when his and Devon's mom left and I raised them byself until their mom got her life together (a little over a year later). It is about control, she wants to control what I do, she wants to be able to control me going on dates, or going out of town, and don't even get me started on holidays, she won't even work with me so I can have the kids all at the same time, thank god the boys mom is willing to switch anytime so the boys can be with their sister.

I just thought I would give you all an update. Hope everyone has a great holiday season.

Have a nice day
Dali

Hey Dali let it be and enjoy it. Maybe she doesn't want to put it on paper but so what. After a while maybe this will just evolve into the norm and then for once the lawyers lose! YAY!

Dali gets more Grace; Mom gets more freedom; lawyers get NO more money. See! everyone wins!

I agree with jaydsdad. Maybe as time goes on and she doesn't want to put it on paper, you will win. I'm relying on that with my own ex.