Yeah but its scary when they start getting agreeable.

LOL..it sure is

Well it has been a long rough road, with lots of up and downs, and usually more downs. But that journey for me is now over, it is has finally come to an end. I know that too often the story we hear is not the best out come for either the parent or the child/children involved. And that no matter how hard we try our best efforts don't always end up with the best results. Every one here that is familiar with my story knows that the last year and a half have been very hard on me and my kids, and that Grace's mom did everything she could to keep Grace from me, and break me financially because she thought I would give in and walk away. I guess maybe that is one reason our marriage failed is that she never really knew me at all. I would never walk away from one of my kids and would fight till my last breath and spend my last dime to know that I did the right thing and did everything I could to ensure that they had the best life they could. And even thou it has been a struggle, I didn't give in and I didn't lower myself to her level, I paid the child support that was ordered even thou it was miscalculated by $100 a month, I never took more visitation than the temporary ordered allowed unless she offered it to me, and I always returned Grace on time. Yes sometimes I was angry and I am sure I yelled at her and was rude, I never claimed to be perfect. But I stuck to the high road and I held my ground. Thru all the visitations she withheld from me, the fact that she didn't include me in Grace's first hair cut, the special occasions that Grace didn't get to share with her siblings. I stuck to the high road and held my ground.

So what does all this have to do with anything you might ask. Well as of March 14, 2006 my divorce was final. I got custody of Grace. I accepted all the debt and let her walk away with a clean start, and she agreed to buy all of Graces clothing instead of her paying me child support (she makes 10k more a year than I do), all other expenses we will split 50/50. I know I have not been here to post in a long time, and don't know if I will be back after this, but I thought the friends that I had made here would like to know.

Grace and the boys are all doing great and we couldn't be happier. Grace is 19 months and already singing her ABC's, Dolan is in preschool and is starting to read and can write his full name. Devon is in 2nd grade and is reading at a 4th grade level and doing math at a 3rd grade level. I took a semester off from school to concentrate on my kids and getting this stuff done. I was able to work out a deal with the bank so I could keep my house and not have to move my kids around again. Jenn (NLB) and I are very happy together and I am going to Canada next week to see her. I am so ready to move forward with my life and let a new chapter to the story begin.

Dali

I am very happy to hear how things have been going for you Dali. Best wishes always.

Dali sir!!! That has to be one of the best posts you've ever written, bar none! I hope it's not your last but if it is, it's your best. An inspiration to all fathers here and elsewhere. You've made my day! [Smile]

(copied and pasted just like Dali's )

Glad to hear the good news.

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dali, I am glad to hear that all the waiting, taking the high road and patience has finally paid off.

Congrats and good luck with the moving on!!!

Dali,
Congratulations! It pays off to be well behaved. Good for you.

Dali,

I am new here to this site, I have only been a member for less than a week. I happened to read your story (and everyone's supportive replies) just the other day and it broke my heart to see what you went through. I could see that you hadn't been on in a while so I didn't reply then.

But I am so, so glad that I decided to check tonight and that I was able to read the outcome. It made me cry...with happiness for you and Grace. I am so proud of you for being the better person and for being such a wonderful parent.

God bless. Hope that you will continue to visit the site and share with us the new chapter of your life.

Deb