I have started this blog to post my past years experience with my X. I wanted to post the emails that were the only means of communication with my X to let others learn how certain situations could be handled or not. The blog format is something interesting because the posts are made up of questions and answers between the parents and you get to comment on them. You get to read first hand the emotion involved in this rollercoaster of emails. Please let me know how this site could improve to help single fathers.

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I read your emails on your blog, what I did want to let you know that those emails between you and your ex are in violation to her right and it can bite you in the butt.

You might want to reconsider and different means to air you all personal conversations.

Peace
and I really do understand that it is hard. But I just dont want to see trouble to come to any parent that trully cares for their children.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I appreciate your concern and will look in to the legal side of this. However, I post this only because I want other single parents to take something away from my mistakes and successes.

I would never try to hinder my chances of seeing my children.

I understand that you want to show other people how you are communicating with your ex, but is this really the ONLY communication between you. I dont claim to understand your situation, but it seems unfortunate that this child's parents cant even speak to one another. It seems like you really care for your daughter. I'm sorry for your situation. I hope things get better for you in the future.

Thank you also for your concern. Fortunately I get to see my daughter which is the most important aspect in my life. I don't know what is going on with ther that she does not want to or make an effort to communicate with me.

At the start of our separation we could speak but as she started to keep my daughter from things went down hill. She filed for a domestic violence injunction because of my profanity on the phone. I admitted to the judge and he filed the injunction. Ever since, she has not tried to speak with me regarding my daughter, she only communicates via e-mail. The irony is that she caused the situation not me. It may sound like I am pointing the finger but if the shoe fits..wear it. I was profane on the phone because the mother decided that I could not see my daughter for Christmas 2005. I was upset and rightfully so.

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I know it can be really upsetting to be away from your child, only being able to see her on a visitation schedule, and even feeling like the child is being used as a tool to hurt you.
But I would also urge you to be careful....you could even make it worse on yourself, I see you posted new email messages between you and her mom. That stuff could really backfire on you legally. Please consider finding another way to vent your frustrations for your sake. Keep in mind it is about the child, sometimes we have to maintain our composure even when we feel we are being wronged, like the profanity you mention on the phone and the consequences handed down by the judge. If you feel the need to blog to vent that frustration, blog your thoughts and feelings to the situation you are in and general circumstances that you are going through, not publicly posting your conversations. Just concerned, wouldn't want you to make it even harder for you to continue a relationship with your daughter.
Just so you know....my oldest daughter was kept from me for about a year at one point when she was 4. Me and her mother had split up, and her mother went in and filed for a temp restraining order full of nothing but lies. Heck, she had cheated on me and was prone to violence on several occasions, and I had had enough and left. She went in front of the judge with her new boyfriend a sherrif's officer on the hearing date for the restraining order. The judge wouldn't even hear a word I had to say and granted the restraining order....I'm just saying, I know frustration and how spiteful someone can be....and how unfair a situation can be. But more important for now, I also know how important it is that you don't make a bad situation worse.
I do wish you well.

thank you all for the support, thank you Don for your words of wisdom. I know that perhaps it is not the best thing to do (post emails) and you are making me see how wrong this could be. I will look at other avenues for venting my frustration.

Thanks!