Yeah, what do you guys think? What's the difference with being a member and not being a member? I just joined, but I don't what's the difference. Thanks!

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Originally posted by Titolatino:
... I couldnt stop thinking about her going out and actually meeting other men though and found myself gettin a little pissed of. How do you get over that? How do you get those thoughts out of your head. I find this is the hardest thing to get over. I feel like I am playing catch up and she is so far ahead of being "over" us. I hate feeling like this and if anyone can give some thoughts and ideas of how to get over this that would be great. Thanks again for the responses this has been real tough and I want to get over all this ASAP but I know it will take time but damn I am impatient lol. I just want to tell her off but dont want to be "that guy". How do you handle that?

You find a way to handle that. It is painful thing to go through. My wife left for an affair and she was quite brutal and cold with the way she did me/us in. It all happened rather quickly.

Deep down I didn't want my ex to fee trapped, so I let her go without much fuss. That was the most painful and hardest thing in life I've ever had to do. It's the old "If you love someone, set them free".

From what others have told me that have gone on to live long live since is that the pain never really goes away. It becomes a part of you. Though happiness does return.

We're all members....LOL
Alright seriously. the golden membership affords you the ability to private message, live chat without waiting to establish yourself for certain number of posts/time here first. There are members here without the gold star that have the extra perks by way of being here long enough already....and some that just seem to have been here forever now...probably because we have...LOL

I believe one of the big perks for ponying up a few dollars for membership is that it helps to keep the forum existing. It costs money to operate/server fees/software and considering the site owner is a single mom raising her kids and not independently wealthy it allows the forum to be maintained without it coming out of her pocket alone.

Thank you Don for info!

thanx for the info. i am gonna save up some cash and pay for the extra perks lol. times are hard hehe. is anyone in or around the san diego cali area?

Hi Titolatino



I'm so sorry to read what happened to you.
Thank God those kids have YOU!!!

I think if you don't feel ready to date (and I can imagine why! you have enough on your plate)
then don't do it. Go with your feelings.

You need time to heal from this and not immediately overload yourself with further complications.
Take time to grieve. Do whatever it takes to help it along. Maybe writing it down? Going for some counselling? To the gym? (Anything as long as it's a healthy outlet.....).

You WILL get over this

(my son is now 17 and his dad left when he was 6 months old.....yes, there are scars but I am able to love - and trust - again, which is the greatest gift!).

All the best

Also



cheerfulbutterfly! what a lovely name!

thank you Marielle. It has been tough, and for a bit it was goin ok but got in an argument today but we are actually giving each other some cool off time. I have the kids with me now because she is going out to some bar with a girlfriend (yeah that bothers me). anyway thanks again Marielle